How to Protect Your Children: 10 Things to Know About Will vs Estate Planning (2024)

One of the major items on my First Year Financial Checklist for parents is putting a will in place to protect and provide for your children in the event anything should happen to you. But what I recently learned from Estate Planning expert Crista Hermance is that a will does not protect your estate and provide for your children as seamlessly as you might think. Here's what you need to know about will vs estate planning.

What basic documents should be included as part of your will?

Crista Hermance is a California-based estate planning attorney. The state of California is driven by a trust-based estate planning process. Because of this, a will, as most people think about it, doesn't adequately provide and protect your children the way most families would intend for it to.

A will is just a document that says how you want your assets distributed and who you want to be a guardian for your children. In the absence of a will, a probate court makes these decisions. BUT even if you have a will, your estate still goes through the probate process.

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Crista recommends a Trust for parents with young children because it provides the most control to say exactly how you want your assets distributed to your children if something were to happen to you. Trust-based planning also allows for planning for far more than just the event of your death. It allows you to plan for incapacity as well.

At the core of an Estate Plan is a Revocable Living Trust. This document contains all the instructions provided by you, as the grantor, to the trustee, the person who will hold legal title to the assets in your trust in the event of your death or incapacity, for the benefit of your beneficiaries, your children. As long as you are alive, you are the grantor, trustee and beneficiary of your trust, and retain complete control of it and all the assets within it. Putting your assets in the trust protects them from ever having to go through the probate court process. It also allows you to make explicit instructions about how and when your assets will be distributed.

A will distributes assets to your children immediately in their entirety, as long as they are over the age of 18. A Trust can exist for years after your death, and oversee the distribution of your assets over time, as your children mature.

Other documents included in a full estate plan should include:

  • Pour-over will - a pour-over will address any assets liabilities that may exist at the time of your death that are not contained in your Trust. It says that those assets should be poured over into the Trust following the settlement of any liabilities.
  • Power of attorney - this appoints someone to make financial decisions on your behalf. This person could pay your mortgage, file your taxes, and handle any other financial decisions necessary for your estate.
  • Advanced healthcare directive - this appoints someone to make healthcare decisions on your behalf, in the event you are unable to make them for yourself. This is also known as a Living Will.
  • HIPPA authorization - this allows appointed inviduals to speak to doctors on your behalf and access your medical records

Why should you avoid probate court?

Probate is very expensive. It takes a very long time - in CA, it can take 1-2 years, and more if your will is contested. It also makes your entire estate public. Anyone can pull all the records and see all your assets, debts and your will. It's a cost, time and privacy concern.

Who should you choose to be your agent(s)?

Agents are any of the people you name in your will or estate plan to act or make decisions on your behalf or behalf of your beneficiaries. Agents include:

  • Executor or Trustee - the person appointed to manage and oversee the wishes of your will or estate plan
  • Power of attorney - the person authorized to make financial decisions on your behalf
  • Advanced healthcare directive - the person appointed to make healthcare decisions on your behalf

Each of these are different roles with different required skillsets. In all cases, you want to choose someone from your circle who you trust to make the decisions you would have made yourself. But you should also consider the skillset and knowledge necessary to perform the duties of the role.

Typically, most people choose their spouse for these roles, along with a secondary or alternate selected.

What should you do with your will or estate plan once it is completed?

You want to keep it somewhere safe, and your Trustee needs to know where it is! Some clients actually like to provide the Trustee with a copy. Estate Planning Moms provides all her Estate Plans on a USB drive, and encourage clients to save it somewhere safe, but accessible.

Your Trustee needs to know where your plans are, especially in the event of an emergency. A frequent issue with older clients is no one knows where their documents are when they pass away, or they are in a safety deposit box that no one else can access. And then you have to go to court to get access to them.

How often should you update your plans?

Estate Planning Mom recommends every 3 years, which is included in her Estate Plan packages with clients. She reviews all the agents and confirms they are all still in good health and appropriate for the roles.

If you have another child, you want to make sure you update the plan or that the plan allows for more children without having to explicitly name them: "all of my children, shared equally."

Any attorney can review, update and make amendments to your plans. You don't have to use the same attorney who drafted it.

What should a Will vs Estate Plan cost?

It will vary significantly based on where you live and the level of planning you choose to pursue. A basic will-based plan will cost about $1,500, while a trust-based plan will be $6,000-$10,000. Less than that, and you should be cautious and make sure it includes everything you need.

A basic estate plan will have sub-trusts to distribute assets to beneficiaries at the ages of 20, 25, 35. More advanced planning will plan for a lifetime asset protection trust, to protect beneficiaries from predators, potential ex-spouses, and even themselves in situations of substance abuse. Trust-based plans are more expensive, but you're getting a lot more control and legal protections.

What is the process involved in creating an Estate Plan?

At Estate Planning Mom, they start clients with a Family Planning Assessment. We talk about if something happened today, what would happen to your stuff and your children. Then we create a plan to make sure what happens is exactly what you want to happen. The process is about 4 weeks long, from first meeting to signing final documents.

That 4 week process sets up your Trust. Once your Trust is set up though, the most important part is funding the Trust - moving all your assets (your home, life insurance proceeds, retirement accounts) into your Trust. If you don't move those assets, or list your Trust as a beneficiary on those plans, those assets won't be protected by the Trust in the event of your death.

Who needs an Estate Plan?

If you have children and life insurance, Crista recommends setting up an estate plan with a trust. You don't have to own your own home or have significant assets to make it worthwhile.

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What about using online legal sites?

Crista has had several clients who tried to use legal sites first. One came to her to finish because they didn't feel comfortable completing them on their own or understand how to. You are able to purchase and download templates of documents, but still need to complete them yourself.

Another client brought her documents that were not properly drafted. They were leaving on vacation and wanted her to review them.

How do Trusts account for philanthropy?

You can allocate via your Trust a specific dollar amount or percentage of your estate to a specific charity. You can also name a charity as a beneficiary.

If you have minor children, Estate Planning Mom recommends using this framework for evaluating your Estate Plan to make sure you are protected and all aspects are properly planned for.

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You need to be sure you have agents selected and documents in place to care for your kids in the event of your death, as well as in the event you are incapacitated. You want to make sure you are choosing agents who would make the decisions that YOU would want.

Estate Planning Mom also offers the Kids Safeguard System as part of an Estate Plan, or separately as its own package as well. It includes guardian nominations for your children, letters to formally notify guardians. It also includes an exclusion letter - if you think someone would petition the court for custody that you would never want to have custody of your children. These legal plans are your voice when you have no voice.

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It also recommends you selecting more than one guardian, including alternates and contemplates different alternatives. As an example, you choose your sister and brother-in-law, but if something happened to you rsister, would you choose your brother-in-law alone? It's also a template for instructions for how you want your children to be raised.

Learn More About Crista, Estate Planning Mom

Crista was born and raised in Ventura, California and lived there a majority of her life. She majored in business management at San Diego State University and soon thereafter started working for Citigroup, as a project manager, traveling extensively throughout the world. She even relocated to the Philippines for a year!

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When she returned to Ventura, she started law school, graduating from Southern California Institute of Law. She clerked for a firm in Westlake Village, while finishing law school and taking the California bar exam. She worked for them as an associate attorney and focused on estate planning, personal injury and bankruptcy cases. Crista really enjoyed helping families with their estate planning and decided to start her own practice to focus solely on estate planning and ensuring that young families know how to protect their family. You can find Crista at Hermance Law and on Instagram @EstatePlanningMom.

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FAQs

How to protect your assets for your children? ›

The best method for parents to structure a wealth transfer to protect their child's inheritance is via a trust. One efective way to shield your family's wealth — whether from things like divorce or from anyone who may try to take advantage of them — is through a trust with a corporate trustee to oversee it.

Should you tell your children what is in your will? ›

Having them be familiar with your lawyer, accountant, and financial advisors can help them feel grounded at an unsettling time. Letting your children know about their inheritance can help them with their financial and estate planning. For instance, if your children are doing well, they may not need to inherit from you.

What are the 3 main priorities you want to ensure with your estate plan? ›

A: The three main priorities of an estate plan are to ensure that your assets are distributed in the way you prefer, that someone else has the authority to make decisions on your behalf if you are unable to do so, and that your beneficiaries are clearly defined.

What is the best age to start planning for an estate? ›

Many financial advisors would recommend starting an Estate Plan the moment you become a legal adult, and updating it every three to five years after that.

How do I prevent my son-in-law from getting my inheritance? ›

There are a couple of ways to protect an inheritance from in-laws, starting with establishing a trust. For example, you might create a family trust which allows you to leave assets to family members. The trust terms can specify that anyone who is not a blood relative can be excluded from receiving assets.

What is the best way to leave inheritance to your children? ›

Leaving an Inheritance for Children
  1. Name a Property Guardian in Your Will.
  2. Name a Custodian Under the Uniform Transfers to Minors Act.
  3. Set Up a Trust for Each Child.
  4. Set Up a "Pot Trust" for Your Children.

Should you tell your children how much they will inherit? ›

How much money people have is usually considered a private matter, something impolite to talk about. But not talking to your children about how much they may inherit can leave them unprepared to handle even a modest amount.

Should I include my daughter in law in my will? ›

Although there is no legal obligation to gift anything to your child's spouse or include them in your estate plan, many people see their in-laws as an extension of their family and would like to include them. In doing so, there could be some unintended consequences in the event the relationship status changes.

Should you tell your beneficiaries what they will inherit? ›

Beneficiaries cannot enforce their inheritance rights without knowing what they are entitled to under the will. Beneficiaries also need a copy of the will to ensure it's valid and free of ambiguous language.

What are the 7 steps of preparing a will? ›

In this guide, we will break down the process into seven manageable steps to help you navigate the intricacies of estate planning.
  1. Making an inventory of assets and debts. ...
  2. Choosing an executor. ...
  3. Selecting beneficiaries. ...
  4. Appointing guardians. ...
  5. Drafting your will. ...
  6. Reviewing and updating your will regularly. ...
  7. Safeguarding your will.
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What is the difference between will and estate planning? ›

While a will is a legal document, an estate plan is a collection of legal documents. More specifically, they often including a will, trusts, an advance directive and various types of powers of attorney. An estate plan can handle other estate planning matters that can't be covered in a will too.

What are the 7 steps in the estate planning process? ›

Get a head-start on planning and follow these 7 easy steps:
  • Take Inventory of Your Estate. First, narrow down what belongs to you. ...
  • Set a Will in Place. ...
  • Form a Trust. ...
  • Consider Your Healthcare Options. ...
  • Opt for Life Insurance. ...
  • Store All Important Documents in One Place. ...
  • Hire an Attorney from Angermeier & Rogers.

When should you write your first will? ›

Turning 18. As a matter of law, in most states in the U.S., this is your first chance to write a legally valid will. By all means, go for it.

What is the best age to invest in property? ›

THE 25-40 AGE BRACKET

We're building skills and experience in the workforce and at the same time, having a family, purchasing our first home and acquiring the things we need (or think we need) to move through life successfully.

What type of trust protects assets for your children? ›

There is an important distinction in regard to trusts, however. In order for assets to be protected, they have to be held in an irrevocable trust. This is a type of trust in which the terms of the trust are created at the outset, and then become permanent.

What is the best way to protect an elderly parents assets? ›

Consider insurance options, government assistance programs and long-term care insurance for your elderly parents. Ensure your parents have an up-to-date will. You can explore establishing trusts for asset protection and estate planning.

Is it better to give kids inheritance while alive? ›

It is important to note that capital assets given during life take on the tax basis of the previous owner, when these assets are given after death, the assets are assessed at current market value. This may cause loved ones to miss out on tax benefits, such as a step-up in basis after your death.

Can I leave my money to my kids instead of my husband? ›

There are a variety of ways that money can be left to your children, including wills, trusts, or by naming them beneficiaries of retirement plans, life insurance, and 529 plans. The best ways to leave your children money are through estate planning tools, such as wills and trusts.

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