I Don't Know Anything About Money, And It's Completely Freaking Me Out — I Need Advice (2024)

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Hi, it's me, Megan. I'm the personal finance editor here at BuzzFeed, and welcome back to Money With Megan, where we talk through the sticky work and money situations that keep us up at night. This week, I have a letter from a college student who's freaking out because they don't know how to manage their money — and honestly, I've been there. Here's what they had to say: "I'm in my first year in college, and I feel like my financial journey is really beginning. I'm lucky not to have loans and to have a little nest egg saved away, but I'm TERRIFIED about learning how to manage my money. I have no idea how to prepare myself for the 'real world,' and talking about future finances with anyone feels daunting and scary — especially since I don't know how much I'm going to be making, I don't have an income, and it feels like the next big challenge to overcome in my life." They continued, "How do I get started with planning my financial future — or, more specifically, how do I stop FREAKING OUT about my financial future?" My response... I totally understand what you're going through! Taking your first financial steps on your own is a big deal, and money can be super overwhelming at any age. But the good news is, you don't have to figure out everything all at once. In fact, if you try to master all the money things right away, you might freak yourself out even more. So go slow and add studying up on all things financial to your routine. A little bit of learning every week or month will add up to a whole lot of knowledge by the time graduation rolls around. I also have to say that graduating without student loans and already having a nest egg stashed away puts you in a far more financially secure position than many of your peers. It's totally okay and understandable that you're feeling anxious about the transition to adulthood, but I hope you can also take a moment to be grateful for the privileges that you're starting your journey with. So how can you start learning more about money? You might start by just looking into some of the basics. Wondering how to set up a budget? See what happened when a BuzzFeeder got help from a finance pro to make her first budget. Or perhaps you're curious about all things credit. I've written guides with what you need to know about building your credit score from scratch and using credit cards that can help you get your head around the weird world of credit. Or maybe you're not sure what to even research. That's totally okay too. I've found that listening to podcasts, reading books, and following finance educators on social media can be a great way to fill in the gaps and learn about things I otherwise never would have thought to ask about. If you're into podcasts, I have a few finance-related faves to recommend. First up, Tori Dunlap's Financial Feminist podcast covers all kinds of topics, from negotiating salaries to credit scores, and she has an excellent 16-minute episode called "Where Do I Start?" that you could use as an outline while you plan your first money moves. Popcorn Finance, hosted by Chris Browning, is another fave for keeping up with what the heck is going on in the economy and answering common money questions. Episodes are short and informative and snackable like, well, popcorn. I also love Ramit Sethi's podcast I Will Teach You to Be Rich. Every week, Sethi talks to a couple about their money issues. It's half relationship counseling and half money psychology, and it really shows how much our emotions affect the way we spend and save. Looking to crack open a good book? The Everything Personal Finance in Your 20s and 30s Book is a great resource for anyone who's just starting out. From creating your first budget to how to start investing, this book breaks down the financial building blocks in a really clear and accessible way. I'm also a fan of Erin Lowry's Broke Millennial. Lowry's writing is super approachable, relatable, and even funny, so learning about money from her never feels like a chore. If you're looking to add some FinTok (that's financial TikTok, in case you didn't know) to your FYP, that can also be a great way to expand your financial horizons. However, I would caution you to also do your own research to back up anything you learn on TikTok. Financial issues can be complex, and TikTok videos are typically way too short to get into aaaall the nuances. Searching on personal finance sites like NerdWallet and the Balance can be a great way to dig deeper when you see something on TikTok that interests you. With that said, one of my favorite FinTokers, Vivian Tu (@yourrichbff), has a background in finance, so she really knows her stuff. Tu is a former Wall Street trader who's built up a big following with her quick and informative TikToks about everything from getting the most out of your employee benefits to ways to save money on flights. You might also like popular money creators like @pricelesstay, @humphreytalks, and @breakyourbudget. There's a lot to explore on TikTok, but again, make sure you also do your own research too. I hope that giving yourself time to learn and taking steps to increase your knowledge will help alleviate the anxiety you're feeling. It might also help to remind yourself that most people make money mistakes from time to time, no matter how much financial education they get. It's part of being human, and you don't have to be perfect. You'll get to know your money style in time, and even though it feels overwhelming now, you will figure it out. However, if this anxiety persists, intensifies, or starts messing with your quality of life, I hope you'll also consider talking with a mental health professional. If that's something you're interested in exploring, you could even look for a financial therapist who specializes in helping people work through their feelings about money. From where I'm sitting, it looks as if you're on your way to a solid financial outlook. The fact that you're even asking this question shows that you care about getting your money right and, again, you're starting from a really secure place. Good luck, and keep me posted on your journey! And that's all the advice I have for today! If you have a sticky work or money situation that you'd like some advice on, write to me via this anonymous form. And you can also follow me on Twitter or LinkedIn. What do you think of my advice, and can you relate to this letter writer? Share what's helped you learn about money in the comments! FAQs

    "I'm TERRIFIED about learning how to manage my money. I have no idea how to prepare myself for the 'real world,' and talking about future finances with anyone feels daunting and scary. Where should I start?"

    by Megan LiscombPersonal Finance Editor

    Hi, it's me, Megan. I'm the personal finance editor here at BuzzFeed, and welcome back to Money With Megan, where we talk through the sticky work and money situations that keep us up at night.

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    Megan Liscomb

    I'm an elder millennial who's been writing about work and money for about six years, and I honestly love getting to share all the things I've learned in the process. In that time, I've totally transformed the way I handle my money, and I've become the one in the friend group whom people call on when they've got big questions about work and money.

    Got a problem you want solved on BuzzFeed? Write to me via this anonymous form— just read the fine print at the bottom of this post first.

    This week, I have a letter from a college student who's freaking out because they don't know how to manage their money — and honestly, I've been there. Here's what they had to say:

    "I'm in my first year in college, and I feel like my financial journey is really beginning. I'm lucky not to have loans and to have a little nest egg saved away, but I'm TERRIFIED about learning how to manage my money. I have no idea how to prepare myself for the 'real world,' and talking about future finances with anyone feels daunting and scary — especially since I don't know how much I'm going to be making, I don't have an income, and it feels like the next big challenge to overcome in my life."

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    They continued, "How do I get started with planning my financial future — or, more specifically, how do I stop FREAKING OUT about my financial future?"

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    My response...

    I totally understand what you're going through! Taking your first financial steps on your own is a big deal, and money can be super overwhelming at any age. But the good news is, you don't have to figure out everything all at once.

    I Don't Know Anything About Money, And It's Completely Freaking Me Out — I Need Advice (5)

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    In fact, if you try to master all the money things right away, you might freak yourself out even more. So go slow and add studying up on all things financial to your routine. A little bit of learning every week or month will add up to a whole lot of knowledge by the time graduation rolls around.

    I also have to say that graduating without student loans and already having a nest egg stashed away puts you in a far more financially secure position than many of your peers. It's totally okay and understandable that you're feeling anxious about the transition to adulthood, but I hope you can also take a moment to be grateful for the privileges that you're starting your journey with.

    I Don't Know Anything About Money, And It's Completely Freaking Me Out — I Need Advice (6)

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    So how can you start learning more about money? You might start by just looking into some of the basics. Wondering how to set up a budget? See what happened when a BuzzFeeder got help from a finance pro to make her first budget. Or perhaps you're curious about all things credit. I've written guides with what you need to know about building your credit score from scratch and using credit cards that can help you get your head around the weird world of credit.

    Or maybe you're not sure what to even research. That's totally okay too. I've found that listening to podcasts, reading books, and following finance educators on social media can be a great way to fill in the gaps and learn about things I otherwise never would have thought to ask about.

    I Don't Know Anything About Money, And It's Completely Freaking Me Out — I Need Advice (7)

    D3sign / Getty Images

    If you're into podcasts, I have a few finance-related faves to recommend. First up, Tori Dunlap's Financial Feminist podcast covers all kinds of topics, from negotiating salaries to credit scores, and she has an excellent 16-minute episode called "Where Do I Start?" that you could use as an outline while you plan your first money moves.

    Popcorn Finance, hosted by Chris Browning, is another fave for keeping up with what the heck is going on in the economy and answering common money questions. Episodes are short and informative and snackable like, well, popcorn. I also love Ramit Sethi's podcast I Will Teach You to Be Rich. Every week, Sethi talks to a couple about their money issues. It's half relationship counseling and half money psychology, and it really shows how much our emotions affect the way we spend and save.

    I Don't Know Anything About Money, And It's Completely Freaking Me Out — I Need Advice (8)

    F.J. Jimenez / Getty Images

    Looking to crack open a good book? The Everything Personal Finance in Your 20s and 30s Book is a great resource for anyone who's just starting out. From creating your first budget to how to start investing, this book breaks down the financial building blocks in a really clear and accessible way. I'm also a fan of Erin Lowry's Broke Millennial. Lowry's writing is super approachable, relatable, and even funny, so learning about money from her never feels like a chore.

    If you're looking to add some FinTok (that's financial TikTok, in case you didn't know) to your FYP, that can also be a great way to expand your financial horizons. However, I would caution you to also do your own research to back up anything you learn on TikTok. Financial issues can be complex, and TikTok videos are typically way too short to get into aaaall the nuances. Searching on personal finance sites like NerdWallet and the Balance can be a great way to dig deeper when you see something on TikTok that interests you.

    I Don't Know Anything About Money, And It's Completely Freaking Me Out — I Need Advice (9)

    Asiavision / Getty Images

    With that said, one of my favorite FinTokers, Vivian Tu (@yourrichbff), has a background in finance, so she really knows her stuff. Tu is a former Wall Street trader who's built up a big following with her quick and informative TikToks about everything from getting the most out of your employee benefits to ways to save money on flights. You might also like popular money creators like @pricelesstay, @humphreytalks, and @breakyourbudget. There's a lot to explore on TikTok, but again, make sure you also do your own research too.

    I hope that giving yourself time to learn and taking steps to increase your knowledge will help alleviate the anxiety you're feeling. It might also help to remind yourself that most people make money mistakes from time to time, no matter how much financial education they get. It's part of being human, and you don't have to be perfect. You'll get to know your money style in time, and even though it feels overwhelming now, you will figure it out.

    I Don't Know Anything About Money, And It's Completely Freaking Me Out — I Need Advice (10)

    Guido Mieth / Getty Images

    However, if this anxiety persists, intensifies, or starts messing with your quality of life, I hope you'll also consider talking with a mental health professional. If that's something you're interested in exploring, you could even look for a financial therapist who specializes in helping people work through their feelings about money.

    From where I'm sitting, it looks as if you're on your way to a solid financial outlook. The fact that you're even asking this question shows that you care about getting your money right and, again, you're starting from a really secure place. Good luck, and keep me posted on your journey!

    I Don't Know Anything About Money, And It's Completely Freaking Me Out — I Need Advice (11)

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    And that's all the advice I have for today! If you have a sticky work or money situation that you'd like some advice on, write to me via this anonymous form. And you can also follow me on Twitter or LinkedIn.

    All requests for advice sent to me are for publication on BuzzFeed only. I do not respond to individual messages or provide any advice one-on-one. Please don't submit a question unless you want it published on BuzzFeed. We'll always keep you anonymous. You must be 16 or older to submit.

    What do you think of my advice, and can you relate to this letter writer? Share what's helped you learn about money in the comments!

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    How do I stop freaking out about money? ›

    How to stress less about money: 9 stress-relieving tips to ease money worries
    1. Identify your stressors.
    2. Get organized. Track your spending, understand your debts, and know your income. ...
    3. Create a financial plan. Develop a plan that outlines your short-term and long-term financial goals. ...
    4. Be flexible. ...
    5. Use stress-reducing tools.
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    Why am I so anxious about money? ›

    Anxiety about money frequently stems from the fear of not having enough to provide for these needs, the uncertainty of the future, or past experiences of financial instability, such as debt, job loss, or poverty.

    How to stop obsessing over money? ›

    8 strategies to stop stressing about money
    1. Don't let money consume your thoughts.
    2. Get organized.
    3. Let go.
    4. Set up monthly auto payments.
    5. Talk to someone about your financial stress.
    6. Manage your health to build wealth.
    7. Focus on your financial goals.
    8. Live a little.

    Why do I worry about money when I don't need to? ›

    In my experience, many people feel anxious about money, despite doing well on paper, because they don't know what they're doing – and that causes them to feel out of control. In such cases, more money can just worsen the anxiety because now they have even more money that they don't know what to do with.

    What is money OCD? ›

    This person could become obsessed with counting money, double checking accounts, and seeking reassurance about their financial state from friends and loved ones. This fear, like many other OCD fears, can become debilitating and significantly impact a person's quality of life.

    What is the therapy for money anxiety? ›

    Financial therapy will help you to challenge your beliefs around money and assist you in finding better ways of managing and coping with financial matters. Your counsellor may also help you to set achievable goals to work towards during and after your therapy sessions.

    What does the Bible say about money worries? ›

    In Hebrews 13, Paul reminds us to “keep our lives free from the love of money, and be content with what you have.” No matter how big your dreams are, remember to be content now. The God of the universe is for you, and that is more than enough.

    What is financial trauma? ›

    Financial trauma is often the result of chronic financial stress, like having your finances controlled by someone else or living in poverty for an extended period of time. Some symptoms of financial stress include: Negative perceptions about money, which may include blaming yourself for monetary failures.

    Is being obsessed with money a mental illness? ›

    The term is contentious among mental health professionals and as of 2023, money disorder is not a clinical diagnosis in either the DSM or ICD medical classifications of diseases and medical disorders.

    How do I stop spending money like crazy? ›

    You'll be able to plan your budget, track your spending, and monitor your debt and savings progress each month.
    1. Shop with a goal in mind. We've all been there. ...
    2. Stop spending money at restaurants. ...
    3. Resist sales. ...
    4. Swear off debt. ...
    5. Delay gratification. ...
    6. Challenge yourself to reach your new goals.
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    How do I train my brain to stop spending money? ›

    With these simple tricks, you could be well on your way to spending and saving every dollar with intention.
    1. Envision the future. ...
    2. Appreciate what you already have. ...
    3. Delete and unsubscribe. ...
    4. Only use money you've already got in the bank. ...
    5. Create separate savings accounts for separate expenses. ...
    6. Call your friends more often.

    How to stop freaking out about money? ›

    A good way to curb this anxiety and stress is to read financial books, listen to money podcasts, and explore other resources to help you learn more about your finances. Money usually becomes less stressful when it changes from something intimidating into something you understand and can control.

    How to survive with no money? ›

    Live off the grid.

    Find or build a home that functions with solar, wind, or other renewable power. Use well water or a local stream for water. Install a composting toilet: it will save water, help the environment, and produce “humanure” for vegetable gardens.

    Why do I panic about money? ›

    There are many potential causes of financial anxiety, though they are typically related to existing money troubles or a history of uncertainty around finances. This can include: Growing up in poverty, or in a household where money was often scarce.

    How do I control my financial anxiety? ›

    Coping with financial worries
    1. Stay active. Keep seeing your friends, keep your CV up to date, and try to keep paying the bills. ...
    2. Get advice. If you're going into debt, get advice on how to prioritise your debts. ...
    3. Do not drink too much alcohol. ...
    4. Do not give up your daily routine.

    Why do I get so upset about money? ›

    Money anxiety, in basic terms, happens when you worry about your income or fear something bad could happen with your finances. To put it another way, it's an emotional response to your financial situation. But money anxiety doesn't necessarily mean you have no money at all.

    How do I resist the urge to spend money? ›

    You'll be able to plan your budget, track your spending, and monitor your debt and savings progress each month.
    1. Shop with a goal in mind. We've all been there. ...
    2. Stop spending money at restaurants. ...
    3. Resist sales. ...
    4. Swear off debt. ...
    5. Delay gratification. ...
    6. Challenge yourself to reach your new goals.

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