Which Wedding Trends You Should Avoid, According To An Expert - Betches (2024)

Saying that planning a wedding is stressful is like saying water is wet or Jax Taylor has issues with infidelity. So I won’t sit here and wax poetic about all the nights you’ll wake up in a cold sweat because you had a dream that your table runners were apricot when you had specificallyordered tangerine. But I willsay that you’re going to be left with a lot of decisions.What’s in, what’s out, and what’s totally gag-inducing when it comes to weddings seems to change by the minute. Is burlap still chill? Should you have a dessert buffet? How about a food truck? Are strapless dresses completely dead? To help guide you in your multi-tiered wedding plans, we asked our in-house expert, Caroline Greif, CEO ofBirch Event Design, about what their team foresees as the future of classic, trend-forward weddings for 2019 and beyond.

What’s Out

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According to my Pinterest page à la 2015-16, burlap, Mason jars, cowboy boots, and barns are very in. Did we all throw up together? Good. Every trend and decor element has its day, but there are definitely a few things that our friends at Birch Event Design say are right out. “Mason jars are outdated. Many people are still doing the earthy vibe, but in a more glamorous fashion.” In other words, bundles of twigs and rustic lanterns are a way to bring that nature/farm vibe without throwing a burlap runner down your tables.

Additionally, “Boutonnieres and corsages are no longer necessary—they are a little outdated—corsages more so than boutonnieres. However, they are more traditional, so I wouldn’t say not to include them if you like being traditional.” So yeah, if you’re absolutely set on a v traditional wedding with all the bells and whistles, go ahead and include the corsages, but don’t feel like you have to if it just isn’t your thing.

What’s In


Last year we had food trucks, donut walls, and greenery f*cking everywhere. Our experts say that some of their new favorite trends include ceiling treatments and decorative walls. “These trends add a lot of excitement to a room and really make a bold statement. It’s no longer just about centerpieces and the ceremony, and I expect these trends to be around for a while.”

So if you’ve ever really wanted hanging flowers and walls decorated with pictures and draped fabric, you’re in luck, cause that sh*t is in. Plus, it’ll add softness and atmosphere without more centerpieces and (gag) uplighting. Nobody likes uplighting.

What You’re Likely Doing Wrong

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If you’re desperately searching for that perfect classic trend to weave into your wedding day, or the most amazing flowers for your bouquet, be careful where you look. “I think some trends tend to get overplayed because everyone gets their ideas from social media. I always suggest that our clients design their event based off of what they like, and not just off of what others are doing on Instagram. Be unique!”

Bottom line, you may see someone with hanging eucalyptus or a croissant tower (IDFK) on your Pinterest feed, but if it doesn’t feel like you, don’t feel like you have to fit in to the trend.

What’s Not Done Enough

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Speaking of your floral arrangements, Greif says, “I always recommend to be bold. People often play it safe with whites or light pinks, but dark colors are much more dramatic. Natural flower colors are so magnificent and people are too nervous to let them shine.” You heard it here first: don’t be afraid to pick those near-black dahlias or those wine-red roses.

It’s better to have bold choices shine than to feel like you have to hide behind pastel everything (unless you’re super into that). I had a close friend get married in a flower garden, and the combination of flowers in her bouquets and the background of her photos was f*cking amazing. She chose nude and pink colored dresses for the her bridesmaids, too, so that the flowers could really be the star of the show. It worked so well, and I’m still hella jealous.

What’s Best To Avoid

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If you’ve ever watched Four Weddings, you know that some brides are obsessed with the idea of sticking to a theme. Whether it’s “Halloween” or “Winter Wonderland”, people are really into the whole notion of making their guests forget that the theme is actually (and should be) “wedding”, with a few subtle thematic elements (like pumpkins for your Halloween wedding).

“You have to be very careful with themes. Doing it the right way can be costly, and if you aren’t going to do it right, it’s probably best not to do it. What you can safely do is translate your theme into a beautiful color palette with elements and floral arrangements that subtlyreflect the theme. If you still want to bring it to life, but don’t have the budget for it, create a moment, such as a striking entrance design that goes all-out on the theme, but ties into other elements throughout the wedding.”

So if you’re dying to have an Art Deco/Gatsby wedding (honestly so 2016), then really f*cking go for it. Don’t get some geometric co*cktail napkins and a feather headpiece and call it a day. Go big or go home. That’s why it may be better to take theme elements from several eras or styles you love and marry them together, rather than backing yourself into a corner just for the sake of paying tribute to the 1920s or a v spooky holiday.

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FAQs

Are wedding corsages outdated? ›

Additionally, “Boutonnieres and corsages are no longer necessary—they are a little outdated—corsages more so than boutonnieres.

Are artificial flowers tacky for a wedding? ›

So, are artificial flowers tacky at a wedding? They can be, but if you choose realistic-looking, high-quality faux flowers, it's likely no one will notice the difference.

Are corsages outdated for homecoming? ›

Boutonnières and corsages are potentially-outdated-but-classic flower accessories that people typically buy for their date and wear for dances and formal events like Homecoming. They typically cost between $15-45 — which can be a high price tag considering they fall apart the moment you hit the dance floor.

Are corsages old fashioned? ›

A wrist corsage is only as old-fashioned as its design. To give it a modern look, try a flower that is big and elegant, like a gardenia or a flat garden rose, and opt for a ribbon base over an elastic band. Or, try something entirely different, like a flower tucked in the back of upswept hair.

Are corsages still a thing 2022? ›

Prom Season 2022 is shaping up to be quite a busy one! Though the traditional corsages and boutonnieres are still extremely popular, we're seeing the addition of more bouquets and softer colors.

Does mother of the bride carry a purse? ›

The mother of the bride can wear a handbag or opt out of it, the choice is her own! However, some brides might ask their mothers to bring a bigger handbag to help them store some of the bulkier items they might need throughout the day.

What can do instead of corsage? ›

Here are 15 great ideas (and alternatives) for mothers of the bride and groom corsages.
  • Floral Necklace. ...
  • Floral Hair Accessory. ...
  • Nosegay Bouquet. ...
  • Tussie Mussie. ...
  • Small Boutonniere. ...
  • Ring Corsage. ...
  • Floral Hoop. ...
  • Floral Spray for a Clutch Bag.
Apr 17, 2020

Are wrist corsages still a thing? ›

A corsage /kɔːrˈsɑːʒ/ is a small bouquet of flowers worn on a woman's dress or around her wrist for a formal occasion. They are typically given to her by her date. Today, corsages are most commonly seen at homecomings, proms, and similar formal events.

Who usually buys corsages? ›

Traditionally the groom's family buys the bridal bouquet, corsages, and boutonnieres. Corsages usually go to mothers and grandmothers of the bride and groom. Boutonnieres are won by the groom, groomsmen, fathers and grandfathers. Other members of the wedding like the ring bearer or ushers may also receive boutonnieres.

What is the most popular style of corsage? ›

The wrist corsage, also known as the bracelet corsage, is the most popular prom style. A wrist corsage is a small arrangement, usually three or four flowers or perhaps even a single flower and is typically worn on the left wrist.

Does mother of the bride wear same color as bridesmaids? ›

Does the Mother of the Bride Dress Need to Match Bridesmaids? No, the mother of the bride doesn't need to match the bridesmaids or the wedding party in general. The bride may prefer to have corresponding colors for a cohesive look, but it ultimately comes down to personal preference.

How many days in advance should you order a corsage? ›

You should plan to have your corsage delivered one or two days before the event, as you can refrigerate them for up to 24 hours before the event. If you've waited until last minute (and who hasn't), many florists offer same- day delivery.

How much in advance should I order a corsage? ›

Don't Order Too Early

You should try to set the delivery or pick up time for the day before the event at the earliest. Generally it's best to pick up the flowers the day of the event, but obviously sometimes that isn't an option, so opt for the day before at the earliest.

Why do corsages cost so much? ›

Labor Is What Makes Them so Expensive

Corsages are very labor intensive. Prom corsages, especially, the type worn on the wrist, can take anywhere from ten minutes to half an hour to make. The number one thing you can do to reduce the cost is to reduce the amount of florist labor involved.

What is the most popular color for mother of the bride dresses? ›

When it comes to color choices, navy is the most requested color for mother of the bride dresses. Other popular colors include blush and shades of nude. While white, black and red are to the colors to avoid!

What should the mother of the groom not do? ›

Here are a few things a mother-of-the-groom shouldn't do.
  • Don't overshadow the bride's mother. ...
  • Don't act (or dress) like a bridesmaid. ...
  • Don't get too critical. ...
  • Don't steal the bride's spotlight with your mother-of-the-groom outfit. ...
  • Don't try to invite extra guests. ...
  • Don't skip the pre-wedding events.
Jul 2, 2019

What should the mother of the bride not do? ›

Mother of the Bride Dos and Don'ts
  • Do give advice when asked for it.
  • Don't wear white, but make sure you coordinate with the colors of the wedding.
  • Don't match the bridesmaids dresses—coordinate.
  • Don't try to steal the show and be the center of attention—take a back seat on the day.
  • Don't drink too much.
Jul 22, 2022

Does my bouquet need to match the centerpieces? ›

Do wedding table centerpieces have to match the flowers? If you want the very short answer, no, your bridal bouquet, ceremony flowers and centerpieces do not have to coordinate with each other.

Does your bouquet have to match your wedding colors? ›

And since the bridal bouquet is one of the most important and main accessories, you might wonder does your bouquet have to match your wedding colors? Although your bouquet should reflect your overall wedding theme, it is not necessary that your bouquet includes all the colors you use for your wedding decorations.

What are the four things a bride needs for good luck? ›

The tradition is based on an Old English rhyme that dates back to 19th-century Lancashire. It describes the items a bride should have on her wedding day: "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, a sixpence in your shoe."

What is a reasonable budget for wedding flowers? ›

According to our friends at Weddingwire.com, the average cost of wedding flowers in the U.S. is around $1,500 for small to medium size weddings and up to $5,000+ for large weddings. Whatever your wedding budget is, it is safe to start with 8-10% of your total budget dedicated to the florals.

What do brides usually use for something old? ›

What Do Brides Usually Use for Their Something Old? Your 'something old' is a great opportunity to get creative by using vintage fabric, wearing a piece of vintage jewellery or rocking up in a classic car.

What do grooms have instead of bridesmaids? ›

Groomsmen. The groomsmen, or groomspeople, are the bridesmaids' counterparts, as such, they take on many of the same duties. They are usually close friends or relatives of the groom and will be involved in many of the events in the lead-up to the wedding, such as the bachelor party.

What bridesmaids should not do? ›

15 Things NOT to Do as a Bridesmaid
  • Don't Make it about you. ...
  • Don't tell the bride you hate her wedding dress. ...
  • Don't disrespect the bride's wishes. ...
  • Don't let the bride get too drunk at her Bachelorette Party. ...
  • Don't drink to excess at wedding events. ...
  • Don't ignore the bride. ...
  • Don't complain about the money.
Aug 22, 2016

Does the maid of honor hold a bouquet? ›

Hold Some Things

During the ceremony, the maid of honor responsibilities include holding your bouquet while you and your spouse exchange vows and holding the groom's ring during the ceremony.

Do moms still wear corsages at weddings? ›

It's important to remember family members on your wedding flower list. Traditionally, mothers and grandmothers will wear a corsage with two or three blooms, worn either on the wrist or pinned to their left lapel.

What is a tussy mussy? ›

Tussie-mussies, also called nosegays, are bouquets of flowers arranged in concentric circles. In the Victorian era, these posies were selected to send messages of love or friendship. Make a simple tussie-mussie for your sweetheart with both garden-grown and store-bought flowers.

Who puts the boutonniere on the groom? ›

Typically, the best man or one of the groom's parents will secure the boutonnière on the groom's jacket. But, Gardenia admits that's usually just for the photo op. Since they can be a little tricky to get just right, a stylist, planner, or florist on hand will usually do the final pin.

Should a corsage match the dress? ›

The color of your corsage should match the color of the dress or contrast the outfit. Rather it should enhance the outfit. That being said, choosing the color is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to your corsage.

What side does the mother of the bride wear her corsage? ›

Traditionally the corsage would be pinned to the right lapel of a jacket or coat which worked well when a suit was the accepted wear for Mother of the Bride or Mother of the Groom.

What are the two types of corsages? ›

There are 2 types of corsages; wristlet and pin-on. A wristlet corsage will arrive on a bracelet that can is typically worn on the left wrist. If she is left handed, it can be worn on the right wrist.

What color should a corsage be? ›

A corsage (and a boutonniere) should match and complement your date's attire. So even if you're going with a pre-made design, be sure the flower and ribbon colors match or complement your date's outfit. The last thing you want is to present your date with a corsage that clashes terribly with his or her outfit.

Who should wear a boutonniere at a wedding? ›

The groom, groomsmen, the bride's dad, the groom's dad, the ring bearer, any ushers, both sets of grandfathers, a male officiant, and any male readers should all wear a boutonniere, which is pinned to the left lapel.

How far in advance can you make a fresh flower corsage? ›

How long does a corsage stay fresh? According to Neubauer's Flowers, freshly cut flowers last only 10 to 12 days, and that's if they are handled and cared for correctly. That means you don't want to have your corsage or boutonniere delivered too early, as it will likely wilt before you get to your special event.

Are corsages and boutonnieres outdated? ›

Additionally, “Boutonnieres and corsages are no longer necessary—they are a little outdated—corsages more so than boutonnieres.

Which is better a wrist corsage or pin? ›

The wrist corsage is the more popular option since it's more easily worn," she explains. "Due to the nature of dress fabric, a pin-on corsage can snag the threading of the dress, which is why most women shy away from them.”

Do aunts get corsages at weddings? ›

Corsages may also be presented to other special loved ones who may not have roles in the wedding party. From your cousin who is giving a reading during the ceremony to your favorite aunt, a corsage will make them feel extra special and loved.

What is the groom's mother supposed to wear? ›

The mother of the groom dress should also follow the wedding dress code. Formal weddings require an upscale dress or pantsuit, while the outfit can be more relaxed for a casual wedding. In general, the mother of the groom should wear something comfortable and flattering.

What is groom's parents responsible for in wedding? ›

What Does the Groom's Family Pay For, Traditionally? The groom's family is responsible for corsages and boutonnieres for immediate members of both families, the lodging of the groom's attendants (if you have offered to help pay for this expense), and sometimes the costs of the rehearsal dinner.

What color dress is the mother of the groom supposed to wear? ›

The Best Colors for a Mother of the Groom

"Wear a flattering color that compliments the color palette of the wedding," advises Valiente. For example, jewel tones and earthy hues are perfect for fall nuptials, while formal gowns in navy or silver would be ideal for black-tie weddings.

Who pays for mother of the bride dress? ›

You may choose to look in department or specialty stores for your dress, but don't pass over traditional bridal salons. Many have options for the mother of the bride, as well! It is customary for the mother of the bride to buy her dress first and then share her choice with the mother of the groom.

What color should my mom wear to my wedding? ›

Try blues, greens, purples, and neutrals such as navy, emerald, plum, or silver. These versatile—and universally flattering—palettes make it easy for mothers of the bride and groom to harmonize. With pale green and blue hues, we love silvery shades for Mom, while jewel tones pair well with other rich colors.

Who walks the brides mother down? ›

If the mother of the bride is taking part in the wedding processional, she is traditionally escorted by a close male relative like a son or brother or may enter alone. If the parents are divorced, she may be escorted by her partner. In some cases, a groomsman or best man will escort her down the aisle.

What can I get instead of a corsage? ›

Here are 15 great ideas (and alternatives) for mothers of the bride and groom corsages.
  • Floral Necklace. ...
  • Floral Hair Accessory. ...
  • Nosegay Bouquet. ...
  • Tussie Mussie. ...
  • Small Boutonniere. ...
  • Ring Corsage. ...
  • Floral Hoop. ...
  • Floral Spray for a Clutch Bag.
Apr 17, 2020

Do people still do corsages for bridal showers? ›

Although there are specific guidelines that accompany the flowers used for weddings, corsages are not a mandatory part of a traditional or modern bridal shower.

Can a bride wear a corsage instead of a bouquet? ›

Instead of a hand-held bundle of blooms, more and more brides are asking their bridesmaids to wear floral corsages on the big day. "I'm a great believer in corsages and have been for years," says Elena Seegers, floral designer and co-founder of Le Fleuriste.

Does the mother of the groom give a gift to the bride? ›

Typically, as per tradition, the mother of the groom will bring a gift for the bride to the bridal shower. It can be something small and thoughtful.

What is the mother of the bride supposed to wear? ›

Today, almost anything goes — so long as it's appropriate for the event. So, while you probably wouldn't wear a strapless dress to a church wedding, it might be just the thing for a beach ceremony. However, you can add a lovely wrap or, yes, even a jacket to that same dress and it instantly becomes chapel appropriate.

What is the etiquette for mother of the bride? ›

The mother of the bride plays the role of hostess, meaning you should spend some time greeting guests during the reception. Although there are exceptions, other wedding-day duties may include sitting at the parents' table and dancing with the father of the bride to help warm up the dance floor.

Who should not throw a bridal shower? ›

No matter who is hosting, be sure to communicate clearly to make sure you aren't planning two separate showers. Traditional etiquette says the mother or mother-in-law (or any relatives, for that matter) should steer clear from hosting as it can appear that they are directly asking for gifts.

What you Cannot wear to bridal shower? ›

Skip outfits that are too revealing, flashy or over-the-top formal—you don't want to eclipse the guest of honor. And since it's traditional for the bride to wear white at her bridal shower, it's best to avoid wearing white or pale pastel shades that look white in photographs (unless specifically stated in the invite).

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