What is appropriate clothing for a funeral?
Traditionally, funeral etiquette suggests men and women wear black clothing that’s conservative and respectful. Black or dark colours are most common, but some cultures expect mourners to wear a less traditional funeral colour. The weather and location of funeral services can also play a factor, so try and consider these elements before you decide what to wear.
If you are attending a celebration of life, woodland burial or a funeral in an alternative venue to a place of worship or crematorium, you may find that the family of the deceased are expecting a less formal attire for these occasions. They may request a less traditional dress or may have a personalised theme they would like you to adhere to.
What to wear to a funeral that is not black?
Wearing black to a funeral is generally acceptable across Western society. However, not all cultures consider black as the appropriate colour for a funeral. For instance, black is considered inappropriate at a Hindu funeral or Sikh funeral; instead, mourners (both male and female) are expected to wear white. Here are some other popular colours worn worldwide:
- Red – in South Africa, red is sometimes worn as a colour of mourning. For a Ghanain funeral, it’s traditional for members of the community to wear black and white while the immediate family will wear red and black.
- Purple – in Thailand, purple represents sorrow and is often worn by widows during the mourning period. Purple is also worn in Brazil alongside black.
- Grey – in Papua New Guinea, a widow applies a stone-coloured clay to their skin while mourning their husband.
- Bright colours – many African, Caribbean/West Indies, humanist and non-religious funerals in the UK and across the world will opt for more vibrant colours. Wearing bright colours to a funeral can reinforce the celebration of life.
Subdued colours like grey, maroon and navy blue can be a good alternative to black.
That being said, it’s best to speak to a family member regarding what they want you to wear.
What do women wear to a funeral?
- A skirt or dress – these should be knee-length and not flashy or revealing, normally with tights.
- A pair of smart trousers – jeans and other casual trousers are not appropriate for a funeral. A pair of smart full-length or ankle grazer trousers in a dark colour can be a good option.
- Plain blouse or top – if you are wearing a skirt or trousers, you can pair this with a smart blouse or top. This should be conservative and plain i.e. no bold colours or patterns.
- Cardigan, jumper or blazer – if it is winter or the venue is cold, it’s a good idea to bring an additional layer. A blazer can also smarten up a more casual outfit.
- Smart jumpsuit – this is becoming a popular option, especially as they can be more comfortable for longer services.
- Smart shoes – flats or sensible heels are the most popular choice. Open-toed shoes or sandals may be worn in some instances (service location/culture/country dependent).
AVOID: Jeans, revealing clothing, flashy jewellery, hats.
What do men wear to a funeral?
- Smart black or dark suits – this can be worn with a white, long-sleeved shirt and tie.
- Smart trousers and blazer – if you do not own a traditional suit, smart trousers with a plain white t-shirt and blazer is a slightly more casual but acceptable option.
- Plain black tie – for many people this is optional, but it is recommended if you want to look especially smart.
- Polished black shoes – dress shoes (i.e. brogues or oxfords) are usually the traditional preferred choice, but any smart shoes are acceptable.
AVOID: Jeans, short-sleeved shirts, trainers and caps/beanies.
What should children wear to a funeral?
There is a bit more flexibility when it comes to children. Smart, age-appropriate clothes are the preferred option for a funeral. This includes:
- Dark coloured trousers, plain top and jumper
- Dark coloured skirt, plain top and cardigan
- Smart dress
- Smart black/dark shoes
What should a toddler wear to a funeral?
If possible, toddlers should be dressed in plain dark clothing, but this is up to the discretion of the parent.
What to wear to a funeral in the summer?
If you are attending a funeral in the summer, women can choose to wear a dark coloured floaty skirt with a plain blouse/top, or a dress. For men, a linen-style suit might be more comfortable in the heat, otherwise you can opt for smart trousers and a lightweight shirt. Sunglasses are usually accepted for outside services.
What to wear to a funeral in winter?
If you’re attending a winter funeral, be sure to wear warm clothing and bring additional layers – especially for graveside funeral services. Black or dark coats, jackets, scarves and gloves may be worn.
