by: E.B. Johnson
Our partners can operate as powerful magnets in our lives, pulling us inward and onward to unforeseen places. When we select toxic people to fill these companion roles, however, they can inflict a lot of damage and prevent us from realizing our ultimate fulfillment and purpose. These same toxic partners have a tragic way of pulling us back — time and time again — despite our best intentions.
We have to overcome this compulsive need to return to the same old places by overcoming the insecurities and misunderstandings that bring us back to toxic relationships. This occurs by cultivating understanding, acceptance and the ability to reshape and re-process the intense thoughts and emotions you might be dealing with. We aren’t defined by our relationships, but our lives can be bolstered by them. Build better partnerships by learning how to let go of the bad ones once and for all.
Relationships can be an important part of our journey, but they can also be a huge emotional hurdle and distraction — especially when things go wrong. A relationship on the rocks sucks up all our focus, and pulls us away from a sea of potential opportunities that might otherwise provide us security, stability and fulfillment. Stay in this pattern of breakup-makeup long-term? You’ll see your overall happiness and wellbeing plummet over time.
We have to start seeing our relationships in a whole new light. Only when we illuminate our partners and ourselves with the truth of reality, can we see the holes and realize the things that are no longer meant for us. Returning to someone who wasn’t meant for you leaves no room for the right love to come in.
No matter how much you love someone, you are not capable of changing them or forcing them into a shape that better fits your future. It is up to us to choose the people who compliment our needs, and it is also up to us to cut loose those who prevent us from…
