The hidden power of a gift (2024)

If I sell you something, we exchange items of value. You give me money, I give you stuff, or a service. The deal is done. We're even. Even steven, in fact.

That's fine, but it doesn't explain potlatch or the mystery of art or the power of a gift.

If I give you something, or way more than you paid for, an imbalance is created. That imbalance must be resolved.

Perhaps we resolve it, as the ancient Native Americans did, by acknowledging the power of the giver. In the Pacific Northwest a powerful chief would engage in potlatch, giving away everything he owned as a sign of his wealth and power. Since he had more to give away, and the power to get more, the gifts carried real power, and others had to accept his power in order to engage.

Or we resolve it by acknowledging the creativity and insight of the giver. Artists do this every time they put a painting in a museum or a song on the radio. We don't pay for the idea, but we acknowledge it. And then, if it's particularly powerful, it changes us enough that we become givers, contributing to someone else, passing it along.

Sometimes we resolve the imbalance by becoming closer to the brand or the provider. We like getting gifts, we like being close to people who have given us a gift and might do it again.

And sometimes, in the case of international aid, we resent the rich giver, the one with so much more power, and thus create a cycle of dependence that does neither side any good. This sort of gift isn't much of a gift at all.

When done properly, gifts work like nothing else. A gift gladly accepted changes everything. The imbalance creates motion, motion that pushes us to a new equilibrium, motion that creates connection.

The key is that the gift must be freely and gladly accepted. Sending someone a gift over the transom isn't a gift, it's marketing. Gifts have to be truly given, not given in anticipation of a repayment. True gifts are part of being in a community (willingly paying taxes for a school you will never again send your grown kids to) and part of being an artist (because the giving motivates you to do ever better work).

Plus, giving a gift feels good.

February 11, 2010

The hidden power of a gift (2024)

FAQs

What is the power of giving a gift? ›

Research has shown that acts of kindness, such as giving gifts, trigger the release of endorphins and oxytocin, often referred to as the "feel-good" hormones. These chemicals promote feelings of happiness, reduce stress, and foster a sense of social connection.

How to give clues for a gift? ›

Place a clue outside a cupboard or in a coat's pocket. Maybe tuck one behind a picture frame. The trickier the hiding spot, the better. Write the clues so they correspond to their hiding spots, but don't shy away from using your craftiest language.

How do I give a hint about a gift? ›

Sometimes historical hints are the easiest to come up with. (1) Good hint giver: “My friend got me a really fun book here once. I pretty much love anything that comes from this store.” (2) Great hint giver: “My friend gave me something so fun from this store once.” The listener then has to ask, What was it?

How to give a surprise gift? ›

As you think of unique ways to elevate your gift giving experience, consider these suggestions for a little inspiration.
  1. Stunned by the extraordinary. ...
  2. Played by the packaging. ...
  3. Duped by delivery. ...
  4. Surprised by a scavenger hunt. ...
  5. Presented somewhere special.

What is the spiritual power of giving? ›

Giving is the master key that opens the door to the vital experience of the prosperity that Christ has made available for the believers. Giving is the spiritual principle for prosperity that unlocks an experience of God's grace for our prosperity.

What is the power of spiritual gifts? ›

The purpose of the spiritual gifts is to edify (build up), exhort (encourage), and comfort the church. It is generally acknowledged that Paul did not list all of the gifts of the Spirit, and many believe that there are as many gifts as there are needs in the body of Christ.

How do you recognize your gift? ›

7 ways To Identify Your Unique Gifts and Contribute to the World
  1. Take note of activities that give you a sense of ease. ...
  2. Get an Outside View of You, even as a Child. ...
  3. Seek the Talent in Others that Inspires You. ...
  4. Write Down Your Thoughts Daily. ...
  5. Assess your Current State with a Personality Test.
Feb 13, 2022

How do you give a heartfelt gift? ›

Give an experience—An art class, a night at the movies, a sunny Saturday morning riding electric scooters around downtown—no matter what it is, your recipient will value this more than any “thing” you could give. Memories say it all—There are so many ways to gather good memories and turn them into something cherished.

How do you act surprised when you receive a gift? ›

Raise eyebrows up and widen eyes unblinkingly – eyes are windows to the soul. Send your limbs and facial features far and wide. Put your shoulders up and arms akimbo. Relax your jaw and allow the mouth to open up slightly making an O shape.

How do you respond to an unknown gift? ›

You can thank the person for what you *do* appreciate about the gift; for example:
  1. "It was so thoughtful of you to bring me something from your vacation!"
  2. "I am so grateful you always think of us around the holidays."
  3. "I was so surprised to get a package in the mail! It totally made my day."
Oct 17, 2022

How do you say gift without saying gift? ›

Synonyms
  1. present.
  2. something given.
  3. award.
  4. donation.
  5. favor.
  6. tip.
  7. gratuity.
  8. boon.

How do you reveal a surprise gift? ›

Instead of handing over a gift-wrapped box, give your friend or partner a clue that leads them to where the gift is. Feeling particularly clever? Make it a full-scale scavenger hunt, where one clue leads to another. Make the clues riddles or inside jokes that only you two would know.

Why surprise gifts are important? ›

The unexpectedness magnifies the joy, turning a simple gesture into an extraordinary moment. Surprises have this innate ability to amplify emotions, making every gift feel like a treasure hunt's end. But the brilliance of surprise gifts doesn't stop at the immediate reaction. They also create lasting memories.

What does gift-giving symbolize? ›

Gift-giving is also highly symbolic. Symbolic of the giver, of the giver's beliefs about the receiver, and about the relationship between the giver and the receiver. Gifts can reinforce important relationships, take them to the next level, or even destroy them.

What does God say about presents? ›

Romans 12:6 reminds us that God, through Christ, has given each of us gifts to use for his glory. The holidays can be a great time to use your gifts for that purpose — to shine the light on Jesus while bringing joy to other people.

What is the significance of gift-giving in human life? ›

Expressing appreciation: Giving gifts is a way to express gratitude and appreciation to someone who has done something kind or helpful to us. Strengthening relationships: Gift-giving can help to strengthen relationships between people, whether it's between family members, friends, or colleagues.

What are the three power gifts? ›

The reason we call them the power gifts, is because each one of these gifts, do something. The gifts that fall into this category are; the gift of special faith, gifts of healings, and the working of miracles.

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