Not having children 'breaks' traditional financial planning, says CFP—8 money rules for childfree people (2024)

If you don't have children — and don't plan on having any — the normal rules of personal finance don't necessarily apply to you.

That's because people who meet that description, known as childfree people, don't need to build generational wealth, says Jay Zigmont, a certified financial planner and author of "Portraits of Childfree Wealth." That renders much of the standard advice you hear from financial experts like Dave Ramsey moot.

"If my nephews get $1,000 or $10,000 [when I die] that's fine. If they get $1 million, I made a mistake," Zigmont said during a recent appearance at FinCon. "Because either they could have used it earlier in life, or I could have used it."

Under the traditional models of financial planning, you're told to keep "running it up" in order to pass along your wealth to your children, Zigmont says. Without that variable in play, childfree people are free to spend or donate every dime they make before they die in order to maximize their happiness.

"That breaks all the financial planning," Zigmont said.

In a nod to Ramsey's seven "baby steps" for money management, Zigmont suggest eight "no baby" steps (get it?) as a financial roadmap for childfree people.

1 - 3: Build a financial foundation

The first three steps, Zigmont says, are what he'd prescribe whether you had a child or not. He recommends starting with the following:

  1. Create a starter emergency fund
  2. Get out of debt
  3. Build a 3- to 6-month emergency fund

For a starter emergency fund, Zigmont recommends socking away enough cash to cover about a month's worth of expenses, which gives you a cushion as you move on to step two: getting yourself out of debt.

"When you're deep in debt, you've deferred maintenance on you, your car, your house, everything," Zigmont says. When those expenses continue to crop up, you'd rather pay out of your emergency fund than fall deeper into debt.

Once you have a savings cushion, treat your debt as priority No. 1, especially if it's high-interest debt, such as the balance on a credit card.

"Your debt is an emergency, especially with credit card rates now over 20%," Zigmont says.

Although Zigmont sees the mathematical wisdom in paying off debt via the so-called avalanche method — focusing on the highest-rate debt first — he generally favors the psychological wins afforded by paying off debts in order of the smallest balances, a strategy known as the snowball method.

"Getting into debt can be quick. Getting out is a slog. So having those quick wins keeps you moving."

4. Save and invest toward your goals

This is where Zigmont says his advice "takes a hard right turn" from traditional advice. Even though people with children are also saving and investing, childfree people may have very different landmarks. After all, there's no child care to pay for, no college to save for, no inheritance to leave.

"How can I spend some money, enjoy my life, but also save for the future?" Zigmont says. "It comes down to, what do you want your goals to be?"

Under a traditional model, you might stash away, say, 20% of your income, divvying the savings between the down payment on a house and investments for your retirement, which you hope begins around age 67.

For childfree people, the script can look radically different. A house is "a choice for childfree people, not a requirement," says Zigmont — especially if you want the flexibility to move around.

What's more, while you may want to invest for the long-term, you can divert some of the money to improve your life in the near future.

"If your goal is to open a business, maybe you want to invest in that business, where the better answer financially might be to invest in the stock market," Zigmont says. "Maybe it's investing in going back to school or changing careers or taking a sabbatical. Those are all investments. They're just not 'classic' investments."

5. Get your insurance right

Being childfree makes having some types of insurance more important than others. If you have children, for example, many financial pros recommend some form of term life insurance to cover your family in the event of your death.

Unless you have major financial obligations your spouse couldn't bear if you died, "it's very rare that childfree people will need life insurance," says Zigmont. "Disability insurance is much bigger."

This is especially true for people Zigmont calls "soloists" — childfree people who also don't have a spouse.

"You need to have good disability insurance that's going to cover you until you retire," Zigmont says. "Many people skip it or don't realize that their employer's coverage won't be enough." In fact, less than half of private industry workers have access to short-term and long-term disability coverage, which kicks in if injury or illness prevents you from working.

Another major consideration: long-term care insurance.

End-of-life care is expensive. The median monthly cost for a private room in a nursing home, for instance, is more than $9,000 a month, according to a 2021 survey from insurance provider Genworth Financial.

"Childfree people often get asked who will take care of us. The answer is my money, with the help of professionals," says Zigmont. "[Considering long-term care insurance] something I want people to be doing by about their mid-forties. And the reason for that is that's when long-term care insurance is the most reasonable. It's not cheap. But it's more reasonable."

6.Be proactive about estate planning

Financial advisors will tell you that just about everyone needs an estate plan, which directs the people in your life how you want financial and medical decisions handled in the case of your death or incapacitation.

It's an even more pressing issue for childfree people who may not have an obvious next-of-kin, says Zigmont.

"Health care and government systems all look for next-of-kin," he says. If you get in an accident when you're out of town, for example, there may be no one obvious to contact, he adds. "That means the government or health-care system will be making decisions for you."

Without an estate plan in place, you undergo procedures that you wouldn't have chosen for yourself, or your assets could be distributed according to government rules rather than your wishes.

"It's so important that we're designating decision-makers for us financially and medically so that our needs and wishes are fulfilled," Zigmont says.

7. Plan for Mom and Dad

You've likely heard of the "sandwich generation" of people who are caring for both their children and their aging parents. But for many families, it's more of an open-faced sandwich.

"It's often, 'Hey, you don't have kids, so you can take care of Mom, right?'" says Zigmont. "There's a different level of expectation."

That may or may not be a role you're comfortable taking. Your first step, says Zigmont, is to establish your boundaries. You and your spouse, for instance, may be happy to chip in more than your siblings financially, but unwilling to let a parent live in your home.

You'll also need to communicate what your monetary role in your parents' care is going to be. "You might decide, 'Hey, I can't afford this.' You need to have that conversation."

If, for instance, you and your siblings can't afford long-term care for an aging parent, they may have to opt for a nursing facility provided by Medicaid. That awkward conversation should ideally happen as early as possible. "You need to do that before they're sick," Zigmont says.

8.Die with zero

Zigmont's 'die with zero' mantra is a nod to the book of the same name by Bill Perkins. But both men would acknowledge that aiming to actually die with $0 in your bank account is a risky proposition. You don't want to underestimate your life expectancy and run out of money.

That's why Zigmont recommends buying a long-term care policy and setting yourself up with an ample cash cushion.

"Then it's a matter of optimizing your life and getting the most out of your money while you're living," he says.

That will look different for everyone, but generally, "we can do two different things," says Zigmont. "We can either save less or draw it down more."

One example of the former is taking a lower-paying job, which could come with less stress and more time to focus on your passions. "Sure, you're not gonna save as much, but you're gonna be happier, right?"

Zigmont also meets clients who have banked a prodigious amount of money, and in a departure from many financial planners, he encourages them to spend more of it well before retirement age.

"Their minds are blown because they've spent years learning how to save. There's a lot of guilt there. There's a lot of baggage that comes with it," he says.

To be clear, Zigmont is not saying that childfree people are free to embark on a spree of reckless spending. Rather, they can put a sharper focus on how their money can maximize their happiness.

"I'd be very careful with a YOLO approach. It's a balance between, you've got enough money to keep yourself safe. But you're also enjoying your life at the same time at a much earlier age."

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Do you save money if you don't have kids? ›

Some of us work low-paying jobs, provide financial support for family, or otherwise have our income taken up by expenses we might struggle to afford. What we do gain by not having children is more time and flexibility -- and we may be able to turn that into higher earnings and more personal fulfillment.

What to do with money if you don't have kids? ›

Save and invest toward your goals

After all, there's no child care to pay for, no college to save for, no inheritance to leave. “How can I spend some money, enjoy my life, but also save for the future?” Zigmont says. “It comes down to, what do you want your goals to be?”

Is it wrong to not want kids? ›

There is nothing wrong or abnormal with not wanting to have kids. In fact, birth rates have been declining in the U.S. for decades, with many delaying having children until they pass the age of 35.

Why are people not having kids? ›

Getting married and having children later in life, women gaining steam in the workforce, and a global pandemic have been a few of the reasons parents are saying no to more children (or having children at all). A new NerdWallet study adds another reason—and it's likely not surprising: Cost.

Who does your money go to if you don't have kids? ›

If none of those relatives can be identified, your assets could go to parents, grandparents, siblings, nephews, nieces—or even the state. "With no will or next of kin, your assets become escheated—which is just a fancy way of saying the state lays claim to them," Bob says.

Do you live longer with or without kids? ›

The average lifespan of a human is 71, but parents of two kids can expect a few more years with their average lifespan being 76. "One thing that is relatively clear is that having children is more beneficial to longevity than not having children at all," says Jianzhi Zhang, an author in the study.

How many Americans don't want kids? ›

Meanwhile, a 2021 poll from our friends at Pew Research found that about 44 percent of childless adults ages 18 to 49 said they were not too likely, or not at all likely, to have children, a sharp increase from the 37 percent who said the same thing in 2018. And a hefty 56 percent said they just didn't want kids.

Do people with no kids retire earlier? ›

DINKs tend to have higher disposable incomes, in part because they don't have the expenses associated with children. DINKs may be able to spend more than the recommended 4% during retirement or retire earlier because they have more money to save and invest.

What to do when your mom has no money? ›

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Is it selfish not to have kids? ›

Proponents of childfreeness posit that choosing not to have children is no more or less selfish than choosing to have children. Choosing to have children may be the more selfish choice, especially when poor parenting risks creating many long-term problems for both the children themselves and society at large.

Do we regret not having kids? ›

The reality is that it's a deeply personal decision. Only you can answer whether or not you will regret not having kids. The best thing you can do is to evaluate your feelings, consider the pros and cons, and make the decision that works best for you and your life.

Is it selfish to have a baby at 40? ›

Is it really selfish to have a baby at 40? No, it's not! When you have a child should be completely up to you: nobody knows better than you when you're ready to be a parent. That said, there are a few things you ought to consider before having a kid in middle age.

Why are millennials not having babies? ›

Of millennials who are opting out, many are doing so because raising children is simply too expensive. A new NerdWallet survey finds that just a quarter of parents of minor children (25%) plan to have more children and only 27% of non-parents under age 60 plan to have any children at all.

Are you happier if you don't have kids? ›

Research shows that there is a “happiness bump” that parents experience right after a baby is born. But that tends to dissipate over the course of a year, Glass says. After that point in time, the levels of happiness of parents and non-parents gradually diverge, with non-parents generally growing happier over time.

How many 40 year olds don t have kids? ›

According to the last census, one in five United States women between the age of 40 and 44 are childless; of high-achieving women earning $100,000 or more a year, almost 50% have no children!

What are the benefits of no children? ›

Firstly, one of the most significant benefits of being a childfree couple is the increased freedom and flexibility in daily life. Couples without children are free to pursue their interests and hobbies without the limitations that come with parenting responsibilities.

Will I be OK if I don't have kids? ›

Even with more people choosing to go child-free than ever before, there are still many who worry that they should have kids before it is “too late.” 1 Whatever your decision, choosing not to have children is never a bad decision, and may be the right one for you.

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Women without children may have a higher risk of ovarian cancers. Endometrial cancers are more common in women without children. There may be a connection to uterine tumors.

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