Military Family Finances: Top 5 Mistakes to Avoid as a Military Spouse (2024)

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Right before my husband first re-enlisted in active duty military, we sat down and briefly discussed our “future military finances”. It was a quick conversation: we didn’t have kids yet, I worked full time, and in general, we didn’t believe it to be a bid deal.

Man, we were wrong!

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Military pay can be confusing to a new military spouse. Not only are there a TON of acronyms to decipher, but your overall pay can change not only from duty station to duty station, but from job to job!

For example, in the Navy, sailors receive Sea Pay and Sub Pay when out at sea, but when on shore they do not. Additionally, each duty station brings different BAH, which affects housing options, utilities, budget, etc.

I remember looking at his first LES, and I felt as if my brain was going to explode. What did all this mean? What were all these deductions and allotments?

Thankfully, I have learned my way around my husband’s income and learned (the hard way) the pitfalls and mistakes to avoid when it comes to finances. So now I am going to share these gems with you: Top 5 Military Finance Mistakes to Avoid!

1. Not Tracking Finances

Having solid budgeting habits is one of the most important habits military families (and ALL families) should have. Both you and your spouse should be on the same page with where your money goes and how much of it goes to each category.

A good budget can be a game changer. Look back at the last 1-2 months. Write down all of your necessary expenses (rent/mortgage, utilities, food, etc), your “fun” categories and your savings goals. I am sure you will probably find that “surprise” expense you didn’t realize you were putting money into. Don’t forget those recurrent charges (Netflix, Internet, etc)!

My husband and I have not always been the best at this, especially early in our military life together. What really made the difference was moving to a specific budget, being smart with our credit cards and using a mostly CASH system for expenses.

If you need to use credit cards, focus on paying them off every month and sticking to the budget using credit cards. Plus companies like USAA have amazing resources AND have points for cash back that you can get back some money you spend.

2. Pay Off Debt With Extra Money

This goes hand in hand with having a solid budget. Extra money is temporary: that is the cold, hard fact. Hence why is is called “extra”. This can make focusing on paying off debt more difficult. It is more fun to take that extra money and spend it on items you want NOW.

However, deployments (and the extra income that comes with it) are actually opportunities to rid yourself of unwanted debt that can weigh you down and cause longer lasting problems. Every extra cent you can put away towards paying off debt or putting into savings (once that debt is gone) will have positive affects in your finances.

3. Create a PCS Fund

When moving every 18 months-3 years, having a fund for PCS expenses can be very handy. Many people feel that since the “military moves you” that everything will be covered and you won’t have to put out extra expenses. That is simply not the case.

Most expenses you will have to pay up front (especially in regards to traveling to your destination) and wait for reimbursem*nt, which can take a while. Not having a fund set aside can be a recipe for debt. This is something I had to learn the hard way over the last few moves.

4. Putting Off Starting a Retirement Fund

If you are not already participating in the military retirement plan, I would highly recommend you do! The Thrift Savings Planhas 5 widely diversified index funds where you can invest in almost the entire U.S. stock and bond markets, and developed foreign markets.

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Additionally, especially for you as a Military Spouse, having a personal retirement fund is never a bad idea. Although it would be extremely unfortunate for military pension to be cut, other military funding has been cut before and nothing is certain.

An IRA or other type of 401K from a reputable company would put you in a sure place to keep your future finances safe. We have 2 IRA accounts, one with USAA and one with T.Rowe Price (my rollover from my old job). These companies both have great resources when you are ready to take that step!

5. Recognize Weaknesses and Then Get Help!

I have never liked discussing finances. It’s a touchy subject and there is a stigma that if you aren’t perfect at managing money, then you must be failing in some way. Trust me: that is simple NOT the case.

Ignore any hypothetical judgment and get to know the resources that are available to help you! Did you know there are FREE resources on many military bases and they may be able to help you with debt counseling and possibly even emergency funding? Yep, so go make sure to check them out!

You got this!

Personal finances are just that; personal. Maybe these situations do not apply to you, or maybe they do. Either way, I hope this guide will help you avoid these mistakes, whether for the first time or the 30th and to better secure your finances for the future.

And be sure to check out my FREE Budget template as you get going on your financial goals!

Military Family Finances: Top 5 Mistakes to Avoid as a Military Spouse (2024)

FAQs

Why do military families struggle financially? ›

3 Other aspects of military life such as unexpected moves, discontinuity of spousal employment, and transitioning to the civilian workforce also affect the financial stability of service members and veterans.

What is the military spouse rule? ›

The 20/20/20 rule requires at least twenty years of marriage, at least twenty years of military service, and at least twenty years of overlap of the marriage and the military service.

What are the struggles of military spouses? ›

For spouses, the challenge of taking care of things at home on their own can be overwhelming. They may worry about their partner's safety and miss their companionship. While deployed, service members may miss important events – birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, even the birth of a child.

What are the cons of being a military spouse? ›

What to expect when your spouse is in the military
  • Other people assume you're the service member. You may find yourself explaining to people repeatedly that you're a civilian and your spouse is a service member.
  • You may feel isolated. ...
  • You may find yourself being the primary parent or even a stay-at-home parent.
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What are the two major issues facing military families? ›

Policy Issues
  • Child Care.
  • TRICARE Young Adult.
  • Food Insecurity.

What is military family syndrome? ›

Experts say military kids often suffer from separation anxiety, depression, excessive worry, sleep problems, and other physical complaints both during deployments and after parents return home.

What are my rights as a military wife? ›

Full Military Benefits

If you have been married for twenty years or more of their military service, you are entitled to full continuing military health benefits, as well as continuing access to military commissary and exchanges. If you obtain employer-provided health care, military health benefits cease.

What is the 10 year rule for military spouse? ›

More details are included below, however, as far as most cases are concerned, the ten year rule simply means that if the military spouse served for 10 years or more, and the marriage lasted ten years or more, Defense Finance and Accounting Service (DFAS) can enforce and pay the non-service member spouse their entitled ...

What is the military spouse Relief Act? ›

The Military Spouses Residency Relief Act allows military spouses to declare the same state of legal residency as their spouse. The Veterans Benefits and Transition Act allows spouses to choose their service member's state of legal residence even if they have not lived in that state.

What is the hardest part of being a military spouse? ›

One of the biggest stressors for 44% of military spouses are the challenges that come with employment, in addition to time away from family and providing their children with a quality education. Other stressors include quality of life, military pay and family stability.

Why is being a military wife hard? ›

Moving is just one of the many challenges military spouses face. Unemployment, raising a family while your service member is away, and being far away from family/support are just a few more of the common challenges military spouses deal with.

What is the stereotype of military wives? ›

Indicative of this attitude are the divisive stereotypes of military wives that range from lazy and irresponsible, to overly rank-conscious and entitled.

Can a military wife get in trouble for cheating? ›

Adultery is considered a violation of the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ) and can be subject to disciplinary action. The consequences may range from administrative penalties, such as a formal reprimand, to more severe actions, including demotion or discharge from the military.

Is it worth it to be a military wife? ›

Military marriages come with benefits.

As a military spouse, you have access to career and education support, non-medical counseling, financial benefits and much more. All free and available 24/7.

What to expect being a military wife? ›

When you marry a service member, you may find you're taking on new roles. You're probably adapting to changing schedules, learning different ways of doing things and developing creative ways to compromise. The adjustments become much easier if you have the right information and helpful resources at your fingertips.

What is the average income for military families? ›

Households with active-duty servicemembers had the highest median income ($71,000).

What is one of the challenges faced by children living in military families? ›

Understanding the Challenges of Military Kids

Military children may be separated from a parent for a significant period due to that parent's deployment. Depending on the type of deployment, children may feel concern and worry over their parents' safety in addition to coping with their absence.

What percentage of veterans struggle financially? ›

A 2021 study by the Military Family Advisory Network revealed nearly 40% of veterans surveyed said they had less than $500 in an emergency savings fund — or no money saved up at all. And more than 80% of veterans surveyed said their finances caused them stress at some point over the last year.

Why is military divorce rate so high? ›

The difficult adjustment of reconnecting as a couple after having been used to being apart, coupled with other issues such as money, affairs, children, alcohol and physical abuse all increase the chance of divorce for military personnel. Overall, the combined divorce rate for the U.S. military is 3.7%.

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