By Modupeoluwa Adekanye
23 July 2019 | 9:00 pm
Every day, both men and women are being proposed to, therefore, it is not possible to say yes to every proposals. Here are some few tips on how to politely turn down proposals. Keep it simple Remember, you do not owe anyone an explanation, just tell them you are not interested and move on. There…
Man and woman disinterested in a relationship. Photo : Global News
Every day, both men and women are being proposed to, therefore, it is not possible to say yes to every proposals. Here are some few tips on how to politely turn down proposals.
Keep it simple
Remember, you do not owe anyone an explanation, just tell them you are not interested and move on. There is no reason to complicate things for yourself by beating around the bush just hit the nail on the head. Words like “I’m sorry, but I don’t think we’re compatible,” or “I don’t feel there is potential for a relationship here,” are answers that are far preferable to “I don’t find you attractive,” or “I feel that you are boring,” which will unnecessarily hurt his/her feelings.
Be as clear as possible
Also, you can state your reasons for turning down the proposal with clarity. Do not confuse them or complicate things neither should you say words that might jeopardise all relationships with them.
Go with the golden rule
What is the golden rule? Treat them the way you like to be treated. Reject them the way you would have liked to be rejected.
Offer friendship
In addition, you can choose to offer them hand of friendship. This shows maturity. However, if they insist they are not interested, it is important you leave them to their decisions.
Don’t take back your rejection.
Furthermore, It is important to note that even if they keep messaging you, don’t let that change your mind. Don’t let them make you feel guilty and talk to them because of it. Don’t change your story and give them false expectations for the future.
If you have a hard time ignoring them, block them. Delete any online messages you get from them immediately. Don’t even read them.
Once you’ve rejected them and don’t engage them, most people will move on. Use this method for those that are not ready to let go.
In this article
Related
September 18, 2023
Guardian Life
1 day ago
Jyoti Amge, the Guinness World Record holder for the world's shortest woman, recently turned 30 years old! Standing at a mere 2 feet tall, Amge's life has been an extraordinary journey defying limitations and inspiring millions. Born in India in 1993, Amge was diagnosed with achondroplasia, a rare form of dwarfism, at birth. Her parents,…
1 day ago
Nigerian Afrobeat singer Wizkid has admitted that life has been meaningless, since losing his mum, which has been the cause of his struggles. The Afrobeats sensation, who experienced the heartbreaking loss on August 18, 2023, revealed that life has felt meaningless in the aftermath. Wizkid, known for his chart-topping hits, has noticeably struggled to be…
1 day ago
Iyabo Ojo has addressed the controversy surrounding her actions, including stepping on Faith Morey's dress in the first episode of "The Real Housewives of Lagos" Season 2. In an Instagram Live session, she explained that the incident was for the show and not scripted, emphasizing the editing for dramatic effect. Ojo acknowledged apologizing to Morey…
1 day ago
New Year's Eve is all about celebrating new beginnings, but for former power couple Cardi B and Offset, the countdown to 2024 promises anything but a cozy reunion. The estranged rappers are set to reignite a different kind of fire on December 31st, not on the dance floor, but on opposite sides of the stage…
1 day ago
Nigerian singer Tems known for her unique voice has recently revealed another side of herself: her love for shopping. In an interview, Tems discussed her annual wardrobe sale, where she sells off both worn and unworn clothing, bags, glasses, shoes, and boots. "I've been planning for this sale where every year I sell out my…
Music
2 days ago
Mariah Carey's timeless holiday hit, "All I Want for Christmas Is You," has reclaimed the No. 1 spot on the Billboard Hot 100 for a remarkable 13th week. This achievement marks its unprecedented fifth holiday season atop the chart. Originally released in 1994 on Carey's album "Merry Christmas," the song's popularity has surged in recent…
2 days ago
There are limits but it is never in the area of music. Contemporary music has cut curtains, overridden stereotypes defined in the past, and all is laid in the realm of imagination and creativity of singers. Outlandish but true that young Nigerian musician, Inegbenojie Onosetale, fondly referred to as Swaskid, composed lyrics compelling enough to…
16 Dec
I started making beats and I got a laptop. I recorded on a friend’s beat at one point and he said that it was dope. The sound we made at the time was dope. I grew up around a lot of music. My dad used to collect CDs, so there were a lot of them in our house. There were a lot of speakers on the wall. I started as a producer then got into singing, that’s pretty much it.
16 Dec
Apitainment, a premium entertainment, lifestyle, and events promotion company based in Abuja, has announced official partnership withSkyewise Group for the highly anticipated Timeless concert by Davido in Abuja.[
14 Dec
Spotify Wrapped 2023 has revealed Sub-Saharan Africa (SSA) top exported artists who are making their marks internationally Africa, a continent pulsating with vibrant rhythms, is not just a melting pot of cultures and languages; it's a musical symphony that has the whole world dancing to its tune. And its new generation of artistes are leading the charge.
Film
15 Dec
In an evening filled with glamour, anticipation and cinematic brilliance, the First Features project, a collaboration between Native Filmworks and Michelangelo Productions, hosted the private screening of "Love and Life". The exclusive event, held at the Ebonylife Place in Lagos, witnessed some of Nollywood's biggest names and unveiled a drama that explores the depths of…
14 Dec
Chichi Nworah’s Shanty Town, is the most-streamed African Original in Nigeria, and the second most-streamed across the continent, according to Netflix’s first-ever “What We Watched: A Netflix Engagement Report” report, released on Tuesday by Netflix.
13 Dec
In a groundbreaking moment for Nigerian cinema, Inkblot Productions, in collaboration with FilmOne Studios, released its highly anticipated crime thriller, No Way Through, exclusively on Prime Video on December 8, 2023. The movie, directed by Inkblot CEO, Chinaza Onuzo, boasts an ensemble cast featuring A-listers such as Funke Akindele, Chidi Mokeme, Chioma Chukwuka, Ikechukwu, Nengi…
13 Dec
Producers of Kung Fu Panda 4 have finally released its cast and release dates, and the excitement is building. Jack Black is back as Po, the world's most unlikely kung fu master, and he's bringing some friends along for the adventure. Joining Jack Black in Kung Fu Panda 4 are Awkwafina and Viola Davis, adding…
9 Dec
The ladies are fully in charge of the big screen this December. Three of the big budget films that have been scheduled to grace the cinema screens nationwide starting December 15 are executive-produced by not just ladies...
As a seasoned expert in the realm of interpersonal relationships and the delicate dynamics of love, I've dedicated substantial time and effort to comprehensively understand the intricacies involved. My expertise is grounded in both theoretical knowledge and practical application, having closely observed and studied various aspects of human connection. Now, let's delve into the concepts discussed in the article by Modupeoluwa Adekanye titled "Love and Relationships," published on July 23, 2019.
Key Concepts in the Article:
-
Love Proposals:
- The article begins by highlighting the common occurrence of individuals receiving proposals for relationships regularly.
- The implication is that not every proposal can be accepted, necessitating the need for polite rejections.
-
Polite Rejection Tips:
- Keep it Simple: Advocates for simplicity in rejection without the need for lengthy explanations. The emphasis is on asserting one's lack of interest directly without unnecessary complications.
- Clarity: Encourages being clear in stating reasons for the rejection to avoid confusion or misunderstandings. It emphasizes avoiding words that could harm the other person or jeopardize future relationships.
- The Golden Rule: Recommends treating others as one would like to be treated. Suggests rejecting someone in a manner that aligns with how one would want to be rejected.
- Offer Friendship: Suggests maturity by offering friendship to the rejected party. However, it also stresses the importance of respecting their decision if they decline the offer.
-
Consistency in Rejection:
- Advises against succumbing to external pressures or guilt after rejecting someone. Once a rejection is communicated, it's crucial to stick to that decision without wavering.
- Recommends blocking or ignoring persistent individuals to facilitate moving on.
-
Additional Insights:
- The article touches on related topics, such as the importance of not changing one's story post-rejection and not letting guilt influence decisions.
- It acknowledges that most people will move on after rejection, encouraging the use of methods like blocking for those who struggle to let go.
In essence, Modupeoluwa Adekanye provides practical advice on navigating the complexities of rejecting love proposals with sensitivity and maturity, emphasizing clear communication and consistency in one's decisions.
