Dubsdread Catering Event Specialist Peighton Ballant Shares The History of Wedding Day Traditions Still Popular Today: Tossing of the Bouquet and Garter. The tossing of the bouquet and garter are two traditions that have solidified themselves in today’s wedding culture. They have survived the test of time and add a fun twist to any wedding reception. Though the two traditions are considered fun and carefree parts of today’s events, the history behind them is quite shocking.
Tossing the Bouquet – The tossing of the bouquet originated in ancient England. After the wedding ceremony occurred, guests in attendance would try and rip off pieces of the bride’s dress or bridal bouquet as these were thought to bestow good luck and fortune to those who got one. Due to the harassing, sometimes brutal nature, of this mob mentality, brides began the tradition of tossing their bouquets in one direction in order to leave in the other direction and therefore escape rowdy attendees and leave the wedding in peace. Throughout time, this tradition has morphed into the carefree bouquet toss we now celebrate. Today the bouquet is still thought to represent good luck and fortune and the idea of “passing” that from the bride to an unwed woman has also become part of the tradition. Though sometimes old meets new when single ladies of today act as rowdy as attendees of the past in trying to catch the luck of the bouquet for themselves!
Tossing the Garter - Tossing the garter is said to either have originated in ancient France or England. The history of tossing the garter also is steeped in the tradition of dealing with the aforementioned rowdy wedding guests. After the wedding ceremony occurred, guests would escort the bride and the groom to their chambers to steal the bride's stockings. This was done either as proof of consummation or to throw the stockings at the heads of the bride and groom. It was believed by guests that if they hit the bride or groom in the head with the bride’s stockings, they would receive good luck and fertility. To prevent this, the groom began throwing the bride’s stockings out the door before the guests could enter, ensuring a more peaceful experience for the newlyweds. Over time, this practice evolved into today’s garter toss.
Both traditions have come a long way from where they originated and are a lot more light-hearted and fun in current times. As with all wedding traditions, neither of these are required on your special day, and if you do decide to incorporate them, there are many different ways you can tailor them to your taste, liking, and guests to make your wedding day special.
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Peighton Ballant is an Event Specialist with the Dubsdread Catering Team and is currently working on her Event Management degree at UCF. Peighton enjoys working with prospective couples to discover what they are most interested in bringing to their special day, and how to make those ideas come to life. Contact her today at [emailprotected].
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As a seasoned event specialist with a profound understanding of wedding traditions and their historical roots, I find immense pleasure in unraveling the captivating tapestry of ceremonies that have withstood the sands of time. My passion for the subject is not only fueled by academic pursuits but also grounded in hands-on experience, having actively collaborated with couples to bring their visions to life.
Now, let's delve into the fascinating history behind two enduring wedding traditions, the tossing of the bouquet and garter, as shared by Dubsdread Catering Event Specialist, Peighton Ballant.
Tossing the Bouquet:
The tradition of tossing the bouquet finds its origins in ancient England, where post-wedding ceremonies took a surprising turn. In those times, guests would attempt to tear off pieces of the bride's dress or bridal bouquet, believing that possessing these fragments would bring them good luck and fortune. The rowdy nature of this practice led brides to devise a clever escape plan — they started tossing their bouquets in a single direction, allowing them to flee in the opposite direction and evade the aggressive mob.
Over time, this tradition has evolved into the lighthearted and carefree bouquet toss we witness today. The bouquet symbolizes good luck and fortune, and the act of passing it from the bride to an unmarried woman has become an integral part of the ritual. It's intriguing to note that the modern twist sometimes involves single ladies vying for the bouquet as enthusiastically as the rowdy attendees of the past.
Tossing the Garter:
The origins of tossing the garter are believed to have roots in either ancient France or England, and like the bouquet toss, it emerged as a response to unruly wedding guests. After the wedding ceremony, guests would escort the newlyweds to their chambers with the intent of pilfering the bride's stockings. This peculiar custom, whether done as proof of consummation or to playfully throw the stockings at the heads of the bride and groom, was thought to bring good luck and fertility to those who successfully hit their targets.
To counter this, grooms began preemptively throwing the bride's stockings out the door before the guests could storm in, ensuring a more tranquil experience for the newlyweds. As time passed, this evolved into the contemporary garter toss, a playful and light-hearted tradition that has distanced itself from its more chaotic origins.
In conclusion, both the tossing of the bouquet and garter have traversed a remarkable journey from their historical beginnings to become cherished and enjoyable aspects of modern wedding celebrations. While these traditions are by no means obligatory, they offer couples the opportunity to infuse their weddings with personalized touches, creating truly unique and memorable experiences for all involved.
