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As we have written many times, the percentage of adults in the United States today living under the same roof with their parents is the highest since the mid-20th century. And where there are representatives of different generations in the same house, various conflicts will inevitably occur.
The story we’re going to tell you today happened this Christmas, and the author of the original post, the user u/Destama, can’t figure out whether the family drama was caused by her own forgetfulness, her parents’ overreaction, or both. Maybe we can figure it out together…
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The author of the post received a hefty check for Christmas from her parents as a gift
Image credits: Money Knack (not the actual photo)
The very next day the woman’s dad started asking her to deposit this check as soon as possible
Image credits: Destama
The author promised to deposit it – but forgot it completely, and it all repeated the next day as well
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Image credits: Sơn Ngọc (not the actual photo)
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Image credits: Destama
Finally the dad snapped at the daughter and berated her in a wrathful text
Image credits: JESHOOTS.com (not the actual photo)
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The Other Guest The Other Guest Community Member Follow
I'm expecting a million downvotes for this, but NTA. It's only been a couple days since Christmas, and Dad's reaction is way over the top. He literally started hounding her over it on Dec 26. Once a gift is given, what the recipient does with it is strictly up to them, and that includes waiting a few days before depositing a check (or never depositing it at all). Telling a 29-year-old "When I tell you to do something I expect you to do it" and that her failure to do so "has damaged our relationship"? Seriously?? This isn't about respect, or year end taxes, or whatever. It's a power trip, nothing more.
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Ash Ash Community Member Follow
Yeah, it's unfortunate they live in the same house, because after an unreasonable blowup like this, I'd be suggesting low-contact. Ouch. I don't know which is worse, the dad's over-the-top emotional response or all the people on reddit voting yta....
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Adrian Valdez Adrian Valdez Community Member Follow
NTA, crazy how so many think attacking your relationship with your child over money is appropriate. She straight up said my relationship with you is more important to me than money, dad. And he was like, well money is more important to me, daughter.
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Tyranamar Seuss Tyranamar Seuss Community Member Follow
I think most people don't think a whole relationship will be blown over one angry conversation. Holy cow. I went no contact after my mother told me being sexually assaulted was fun and she knows because she talked to my rapist and he told her exactly what happened and it was fun. People on here suggest no contact, low contact for every disagreement. He's not attacking his relationship with his daughter. He's telling her to deposit the damned check.
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BarkingSpider BarkingSpider Community Member Follow
Everyone in this story sucks, but it all could have been avoided if she just did the mobile deposit the first time he asked. He overreacted big time and maybe should have explained whatever the situation was so she would understand why it was important. If this is how he behaves every time he tells her to do something, it makes sense she wouldn't understand why. "Do what I say because I said it," is not a way to teach kids to be responsible. I'm sure a lot of things are being left out since this is only one side of the story though.
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ThisIsMe ThisIsMe Community Member Follow
She's not a kid - she's 29 yo and doesn't need to do whatever he tells her to do just because he said so. If this is a condition of the living arrangement, then it is best she move on. If Dad has a legitimate reason for wanting the check deposited immediately (sorry, but a number of illegal reasons come to mind), he could speak to her in the same manner she spoke to him - with respect. She should run to the bank with that check and use the funds to find another place to live.
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The Other Guest The Other Guest Community Member Follow
I'm expecting a million downvotes for this, but NTA. It's only been a couple days since Christmas, and Dad's reaction is way over the top. He literally started hounding her over it on Dec 26. Once a gift is given, what the recipient does with it is strictly up to them, and that includes waiting a few days before depositing a check (or never depositing it at all). Telling a 29-year-old "When I tell you to do something I expect you to do it" and that her failure to do so "has damaged our relationship"? Seriously?? This isn't about respect, or year end taxes, or whatever. It's a power trip, nothing more.
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Ash Ash Community Member Follow
Yeah, it's unfortunate they live in the same house, because after an unreasonable blowup like this, I'd be suggesting low-contact. Ouch. I don't know which is worse, the dad's over-the-top emotional response or all the people on reddit voting yta....
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Adrian Valdez Adrian Valdez Community Member Follow
NTA, crazy how so many think attacking your relationship with your child over money is appropriate. She straight up said my relationship with you is more important to me than money, dad. And he was like, well money is more important to me, daughter.
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Tyranamar Seuss Tyranamar Seuss Community Member Follow
I think most people don't think a whole relationship will be blown over one angry conversation. Holy cow. I went no contact after my mother told me being sexually assaulted was fun and she knows because she talked to my rapist and he told her exactly what happened and it was fun. People on here suggest no contact, low contact for every disagreement. He's not attacking his relationship with his daughter. He's telling her to deposit the damned check.
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BarkingSpider BarkingSpider Community Member Follow
Everyone in this story sucks, but it all could have been avoided if she just did the mobile deposit the first time he asked. He overreacted big time and maybe should have explained whatever the situation was so she would understand why it was important. If this is how he behaves every time he tells her to do something, it makes sense she wouldn't understand why. "Do what I say because I said it," is not a way to teach kids to be responsible. I'm sure a lot of things are being left out since this is only one side of the story though.
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ThisIsMe ThisIsMe Community Member Follow
She's not a kid - she's 29 yo and doesn't need to do whatever he tells her to do just because he said so. If this is a condition of the living arrangement, then it is best she move on. If Dad has a legitimate reason for wanting the check deposited immediately (sorry, but a number of illegal reasons come to mind), he could speak to her in the same manner she spoke to him - with respect. She should run to the bank with that check and use the funds to find another place to live.
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