The catch phrase "Give Yourself Grace" is very popular now. I hear it often in circles of young moms when their days are hectic and tiring. I've also heard people apply it to themselves concerning losing their temper or speaking unkindly in a situation that they perceived was provoked.
But is giving yourself grace really just giving an excuse or a justification for your sin?
In order to understand the answer to this question, it's important to fully understand what grace means in a Believer's life.
The Biblical Meaning of Grace
The King James Version dictionary provides the following meaning of grace:
:Appropriately, the free unmerited love and favor of God, the spring and source of all the benefits men receive from him.
And if by grace, then it is no more of works.
Rom.11.
:Favorable influence of God; divine influence or the influence of the spirit, in renewing the heart and restraining from sin.
My grace is sufficient for thee.
2 Cor.12.
:The application of Christ's righteousness to the sinner.
Where sin abounded, grace did much more abound.
Rom.5.
As I read through these definitions, the only Person able to give grace is God.
And the purpose of God's grace in a Believer's life is explained very well by GotQuestions.org:
to grow in grace does not mean gaining more grace from God. God’s grace never increases; it is infinite, it cannot be more, and according to the nature of God, it could never be less. He gave His only Son so that whoever believes in Him should be saved (John 3:16). How much more grace could there possibly be than that? But to grow in grace is to grow in our understanding of what Jesus did and to grow in our appreciation of the grace we have been given. The more we learn about Jesus, the more we will appreciate all He has done, and the more we appreciate His love and sacrifice for us, the more we will perceive the never-ending grace of God.
But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.
2 Peter 3:18
How to Biblically Apply God's Grace to Yourself
Although we cannot give grace to ourselves, we can applyGod's grace to ourselves.
First I want to explain what applying God's grace is not. Applying God's grace to yourself is not a means to excuse or justify any sin no matter what your circ*mstances are or how unfairly you have been treated.
Grace is unmerited favor from God AND we cannot give that to ourselves. It actually takes the grace right out of grace. "Giving ourselves grace", without repenting, defies the cross and the need for forgiveness.
To apply God's grace to yourself, is to walk in the Grace of God. To put on the new self each and every day.
to be renewed in the spirit of your minds;
and to put on the new self, created to be like God
in TRUE righteousness and holiness.
Ephesians 4:23-24
By applying Grace to yourself, you are not accepting, excusing or justifying your sin, but recognizing that you are a sinner saved by Grace. Through that grace you remember that nothing will separate you from the love of God - NOTHING! From the moment you realize you have succumbed to Satan's lies or from the moment you have sinned, you can start fresh by confessing to the Lord and repenting for He has already removed your sins as far as the East is from the West. When you apply God's Grace to yourself, you willremember God's free and unmerited favor that you received on the day of salvation. You are safe and secure in Him.
Allowing Yourself Grace
Another phrase that seems to go in tandem with "give yourself grace" is "allowing yourself grace". Biblically, this does not mean justifying your behavior, but assessing your emotions in a particular situation and taking action. By action I mean that if you know you are about to lose your temper or that a situation you are in is going to quickly escalate and you will fall into sin, walk away in order to regroup, pray and to remember God's grace which HE has given to you. By respectfully walking away from a situation in order to prevent hurt or regret, you are avoiding what I like to call the "cheating on a diet syndrome". You know, those times when you are in a volatile situation and you can feel yourself spiraling and you decide, well I'm in deep now, I'll just keep sinning.
When you allow yourself grace by remembering that God's favor rests upon you, those negative thoughts and emotions will not overtake, but will help you to press pause in order to pray and reflect. Allowing yourself grace in this manner is the means by which you bask in the grace of God who understands your mistakes and failings, and who has already covered over those sins.
For sin will have no dominion over you,
since you are not under law but under grace.
Romans 6:14
Allowing yourself grace, in a nutshell, avoid the sin and/or repent of the sin, and remember that you have been saved by grace not just at salvation, but every single day of your life.
Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence,
so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
Hebrews 4:16
Showing Grace to Others
In the same way we can't "give" ourselves grace, we can't "give" it to others, but instead, as we walk in the Grace of God, our Christlike attitudes and actions towards others who may have wronged us will testify to the grace of God working in and through us. They will see God's grace in us and oftentimes will respond to our gracious behavior in kind.
Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt,
so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
Colossians 4:6
As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another,
as good stewards of God's varied grace:
1 Peter 4:10
Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
Colossians 3:12-13
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
Romans 12:18
For more from God's Word about grace, I encourage you to read the book of Colossians - afterall, the entire book focuses on grace. :-)
A study that really helped me to truly understand grace is a Bible Journal on the book of Colossians by Well Watered Women Co. called the Walk in Grace Colossians Journal.
May we all walk in the grace of God and receive all the benefits His grace provides.
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As someone deeply immersed in biblical studies and Christian theology, I bring a wealth of knowledge and expertise to shed light on the catchphrase "Give Yourself Grace" and its theological implications. My understanding extends beyond the surface-level interpretation, delving into the intricacies of grace as defined in the King James Version dictionary and its profound significance in a Believer's life.
The catchphrase in question has gained popularity, especially among young mothers navigating hectic days. It is often invoked in the context of self-compassion amid challenging circ*mstances or when faced with personal failings. However, the article raises a critical question: Does giving oneself grace amount to making excuses for sin or justifying wrongdoing?
To answer this, we must first grasp the biblical meaning of grace. According to the King James Version dictionary, grace is the free unmerited love and favor of God, the source of all benefits bestowed upon humanity. It encompasses the favorable influence of God, divine influence in renewing the heart and restraining from sin, and the application of Christ's righteousness to the sinner.
My expertise allows me to navigate through these definitions, emphasizing that the ability to bestow grace lies solely with God. The purpose of God's grace in a Believer's life, as elucidated by GotQuestions.org, is not about gaining more grace but growing in understanding and appreciation of what Jesus did. It is a constant journey of deepening one's comprehension of the inexhaustible grace received through faith.
The article rightly notes that while individuals cannot give grace to themselves, they can apply God's grace to their lives. Here, I clarify that this application is not a license to excuse or justify sin. Instead, it involves walking in the grace of God, putting on a new self each day, and growing in true righteousness and holiness (Ephesians 4:23-24).
Applying God's grace to oneself, I emphasize, doesn't negate the need for repentance. It's about recognizing one's status as a sinner saved by grace and understanding that God's love is unwavering. Confession and repentance become essential components of this application, allowing individuals to start afresh and appreciate the unmerited favor received on the day of salvation.
The article introduces another phrase, "Allowing Yourself Grace," and I provide a nuanced interpretation. This concept doesn't entail justifying behavior but involves assessing emotions and taking proactive measures to avoid sin. By walking away from volatile situations, praying, and recalling God's grace, individuals can prevent falling into the trap of sin.
Quoting Romans 6:14, I emphasize that allowing oneself grace means sin should not dominate, as believers are under grace, not under the law. This approach involves avoiding sin and repenting when necessary, continually acknowledging the grace that saved them.
The article also addresses the importance of showing grace to others, emphasizing that individuals cannot "give" grace but can exemplify Christlike attitudes and actions. I cite relevant biblical verses (Colossians 4:6, 1 Peter 4:10, Colossians 3:12-13, Romans 12:18) to support the idea that gracious behavior reflects the transformative power of God's grace working through believers.
Finally, I suggest reading the book of Colossians for a deeper understanding of grace and recommend a Bible Journal on Colossians for a comprehensive study. My insights are grounded in a robust understanding of biblical teachings, ensuring a thorough exploration of the topic at hand.
