Dad Promises His Daughter College Fund, Ends Up Spending All The Money On His Wedding, Is Offended After Daughter Cuts Ties With Him (2024)

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Darja Zinina

Monika Pašukonytė

Terry Tobias

When I was growing up, my father constantly told me that I was going to college because I was "the smartest one in the family". I, like the OP, got good grades, was involved in school activities, and didn't get into trouble. I was accepted into the college that I wanted to go to and was really looking forward to it, but my parents wanted me to work for a year before going. Anyway, one year later I was set to go, and just had my mandatory physical. Later that very day, my mother told me that they couldn't afford to send me. Evidently my father never saved for my education and didn't apply for any loans. I was devastated. He made good money at Kodak, but spent alot of it on non-essentials. It broke my heart. But...20 years later I put myself through university and graduated Magna Cum Laude with a degree in Psychology. I'm very proud of that and hope that others who have been in this situation realize that it's never too late!

SnackbarKaat

To promise that to a child and then flagrantly deny/refuse/.. that's really breaking their trust in you forever

Alexandra

Look, I know you don't want to hear this, but cut your father loose. He will ALWAYS try to blame you or try to convince you that it was all in your mind. You have nothing to win by staying in contact. On the contrary, it will impact you negatively. Just try it for a while and find out what your father actually contributes to your well-being.

Terry Tobias

When I was growing up, my father constantly told me that I was going to college because I was "the smartest one in the family". I, like the OP, got good grades, was involved in school activities, and didn't get into trouble. I was accepted into the college that I wanted to go to and was really looking forward to it, but my parents wanted me to work for a year before going. Anyway, one year later I was set to go, and just had my mandatory physical. Later that very day, my mother told me that they couldn't afford to send me. Evidently my father never saved for my education and didn't apply for any loans. I was devastated. He made good money at Kodak, but spent alot of it on non-essentials. It broke my heart. But...20 years later I put myself through university and graduated Magna Cum Laude with a degree in Psychology. I'm very proud of that and hope that others who have been in this situation realize that it's never too late!

SnackbarKaat

To promise that to a child and then flagrantly deny/refuse/.. that's really breaking their trust in you forever

Alexandra

Look, I know you don't want to hear this, but cut your father loose. He will ALWAYS try to blame you or try to convince you that it was all in your mind. You have nothing to win by staying in contact. On the contrary, it will impact you negatively. Just try it for a while and find out what your father actually contributes to your well-being.